Being the only one buying

That is not the point. Other people may read what you've said and believe you enough to stop them seeking proper advice. Please don't give legal advice when you don't know what you are talking about.

I am just sorry for you. Big plain sorry. Not pity you. Just feel sad for you
so the guy never proposed, never paid for anything, never treated you to nice dresses, flowers, spa, meals out, day trips, holidays while dating, just had his sex time with you and also made you pay - I cannot get how such men make it on the list of any woman

He probably makes you feel loved just enough to stop you kicking him out. It’s a sort of “ push me, pull me” way of thinking. He’s onto a winner —- you do everything, you pay for everything and he does fuck all.
You are being financially and emotionally abused. I bet if he thinks you’re coming round to the idea of ditching him he’s just a little bit nice to hook you back in.
Call Women’s Aid then start getting all the evidence of his income for the csm.

I've only read the OP so i'm sure I will be repeating what others have already said but this sounds like financial abuse. Kick him out and go on benefits and also claim child support off him. You will be much better off! What kind of a Dad doesn't even want to buy his baby a playmat! That is a disgusting poor excuse of a Dad!

Thanks.

Who is to say it was consensual?

It’s absolutely ridiculous that @BMW6 post was deleted, they were not abusive in any way whatsoever and certainly not nasty, what they said is absolutely true, this site is getting beyond ridiculous with the monitoring, if the posts aren’t sufficiently pandering to the OP it’s deleted, seen it on a few threads recently. No doubt mine will be as well.

Her name is not on the mortgage, she'll have to PROVE that she paid and he didn't and legal advice and representation will cost her £££££££

This
Your post is surreal OP. Reread it and imagine someone else had written it.
You deserve to be loved and cared for and your 'partner' sharing the financial load

Your finance is a grade A prick and you are being financially abused.
How could you possibly love a piece of shit who doesn't pay a penny for his kids or for his house and food. You might have no self worth but surely you think your kids deserve better than this waste of space.

Op is paying the mortgage so she has a beneficial interest in it. Don't tell people incorrect information - op needs to take proper legal advice.

This is one of the worst things I have ever read on here. The 'but I love him' is just the icing on the whole shit show.

OP you NEED to speak to Woman's Aid now. They can help you with legal advice, because the cost of it will be impossible for you at the moment.

But you have got to start to understand what an absolute thundercunt this man is. He is stealing from his own children, never mind his so-called partner.

Shocking and sad to read this. I think you’re coming to your senses in that you’ve written a post on here. Can you confide in someone in real life? You need help get rid of him.

Dear me, i missed that, original poster says her name is on everything EXCEPT mortgage and she has also said she pays the mortgage.

She needs to get out now. What on earth is the fiance spending money on?
She's being used. He'll drop her as soon as she stops paying.

He’s never going to marry her. Why would he? It’s got the best of every world now and it’s all on her!

How on earth have you fallen so far down this hole, OP? Of course your mental health is damaged. You’re living with a complete arsehole.

Get out and don’t look back. CMS for maintenance.

Do not marry this pathetic excuse of a ‘partner’

She’s paying HIS mortgage.

(she’s only made 4 posts in here. It’s not hard to read those even if you don’t want to read the whole thread.)

So did l for this reason, it's so bad l find it very difficult to believe.

Are you handing over the mortgage amount for him to pay it? Not sure that someone not on the mortgage would be allowed a DD to pay it.
If you have got a DD in place it should say that the payee is the mortgage company.
Can OP register an interest with the Land Registry as they're not married, does anyone know?
You certainly do have an interest OP as you pay for it.
He could be stashing his cash and one day just pay it off and out you go.

If you are the only one on the mortgage and paying, ask him to move out. It sounds like you won’t lose any help around the house, your life will be easier and he’ll have to start contributing child maintenance. Plus you get a break when he has the kids. You will find someone who loves you for you but enjoy the freedom and more money when you do.

Why you are with him and producing more babies into this toxic dynamics???
He is just a sperm donor, isnt he?

Everyday, I can't add to what others have said on here.

You seem to be completely under this guy's thumb and completely intimidated by him.

Good communication is vital to a healthy relationship. However your relationship is far from healthy and, in time, it will be unhealthy for your children.

I cannot imagine why you wanted to have a third baby with him but what's done is done. How soon until you get back to work?

You need professional help, Everyday, on more than one front.

You can choose to be used and abused

Abuse when your partner doesn’t actually hit you is more subtle and it can take years for someone to recognise they are being abused

I think that we have a “switch” inside us and whilst we can walk over hot coals for people we love, we also don’t recognise the abuse directed towards us until something, even tiny happens and suddenly the switch flicks off. It doesn’t matter what happens in the future or how nice someone becomes towards us when they recognise we are done or they have overstepped the mark, that switch cannot be turned back on.

I voted YABU because who in their right mind puts up with this crap!?

LTB doesn't sound like he will be missed in any shape or form.