Do you tell your parents your problems?

I think the OP meant that she doesn't discuss marital problems with her parents, not that she doesn't discuss problems with her husband

I did talk to my Mum in my teens/eay-20’s but as her health deteriorated, I didn’t want to worry her (she died when I was mid-20’s). If she’d been healthy for longer, I’d probably have continued longer, but I would probably have held off more as I got older.

My Dad has always needed support and I’m his emotional rock now so I don’t share my problems with him as he’d worry too much. He definitely tells me all of his worries and problems though, he can talk for England. 😂

I'm careful what I put on them now they are older. When I have an actual problem I wait until I have either a solution or at least a plan for managing or mitigating it before I tell them, so they are not left in the dark but get the problem and solution in one bite. That way they can be confident that it is being handled, and I am not asking them to do anything except sympathise and wish me well.

Trivial crappy things I will moan about to them though.

I told my mum everything and she would tell me. She died suddenly this year though at 57 and I miss it more than anything

Yes most things, they are a great support to me. I'd be more likely to go to my mam first but I don't mind talking to my dad about stuff too. I tell my DH absolutely everything though, I find it a bit strange that you don't share any of your problems with the person you married

Hell no. It’s bad enough that I have a problem, I don’t need telling everything I did wrong and how I should have done it 🤣

Not when I was younger but I’m really close with them now so I tell them most things.

Or really I tell my mum because she asks 10 million questions a day and either my dad hears because he’s in the room too or she feeds back to him 🤣

Depends on what the problems are.

I’d tell my mother about practical problems and physical health issues, but anything to do with mental health or emotional support, no.

I was able to talk to my mum about most things that I was troubled about, the only thing I held back on a bit was about a health issue I have as it would have really worried her. She was a kind very wise mum.

I do tell my mother almost everything. She is my safe space and is reassuring.

No way . My DM has a big big mouth . She adds bits on and takes away bits .

I don't know many people who have the dysfunctional relationships with their parents that people on here seem to. So I think that it's usual to go to parents with problems. I did with my Mum and my adult children come to me. If they are able to be of support and the stress wouldn't impact on their health, then it would still be ok to be honest with them.

Absolutely never. Not even in childhood. They were and are timid catastrophisers who would have done anything to help, and I would be stuck with managing their worries as well as my own. I’d realised that by the time I was eight. I’ve dealt with serious illness and treatment and lots of fairly traumatic stuff while plastering on a smile for them. It means being around them is exhausting because I’m acting all the time. But it is what it is.

I tell my mum most things! She raised me as a single parent (alongside my Nan who has now passed) and we’re really close. I don’t tell her about issues between me and DP or anything but I talk to her if I have a bad day at work, or if I’m struggling with my DSS’s behaviour or things to do with my house or pets or whatever.

No, my Dad isn't good with personal stuff and my mother would just make it all about her somehow, so it's easier to just truck through it and lean on close friends if I can.

Yes. I’m 38, separated from my husband last year and have a 4 year old. I’ve leaned on my parents more in the last 18 months than ever I think.

my dad is a real talker though. Always has been so that probably makes a big difference.

I hope you’re daughter makes a full recovery
Your parents at 70, nowadays, that isn’t very old unless they’ve got health problems.

I wouldn't withhold sharing unless I thought they couldn't cope with knowing, which at mid seventies they are not at that point for the problems I have which have an effect but aren't life threatening.
I don't go to them with problems though (iyswim) as they are not much support as they never have been, both being pretty clueless about a lot of things.
I do share with them in a 'let's know what's going on for each other for mutual moral support' way.

Mine are dead now but I never, ever told wither of my parents any of my problems.

No never. I tell my friends my problems. Not usually DH. Never my parents.

Im sorry about your daughter. I hope she recovers soon