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Vibrators on sale at Tesco, thought it was a bit much

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JustBrowsingTheWeb · 27/10/2024 17:10

Went to buy some toothpaste with my kids, 7 year old wants to see new toy in plastic boxes, it’s rows and rows of vibrators. Is it just me or is this a bit much for the weekly shop?

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Longsight2019 · 27/10/2024 23:52

Someone once put a pregnancy test in my trolly when I wasn’t looking. I think a vibrator would’ve taken it to a whole new level.

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Sigh. Why would you need to explain this to your child? Further than ‘it’s for an adult’.

Do you feel the need to explain that a condom is to roll down over an erect penis so a man can insert it in someone’s orifice without fear of transmitting an sti or causing a pregnancy? Or would you just say it’s for adults?

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IKEAJesus · 27/10/2024 23:49

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I wouldn’t be explaining butt plugs to kids either, but no need to refer to their use in those terms. It’s not for me, but adults undertaking perfectly legal activities are not depraved.

Reserved101 · 27/10/2024 23:49

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Re. the butt plugs in particular...do people (or at least, many people) insert them into themselves for pleasure?

I was under the impression that they're more of a "kink" thing than a masturbation aide.

Edit: I think "depraved" is overstating it...but I am surprised to see them on supermarket shelves.

valentinka31 · 27/10/2024 23:48

Magnastorm · 27/10/2024 23:05

But you are happy for them to sell other adult (and non-adult) products, all of which are far more harmful than a few sex toys.

Aisles and aisles of sugar-filled products, booze and tobacco - all of which destroy thousands of lives each year, and you think that a couple of tiny vibrators hidden away with the boring medical stuff is the problem?

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Nor did I ever say I was happy for them to sell other products. The question was about products you could buy in a sex shop.

BonnedPaster · 27/10/2024 23:46

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JustBrowsingTheWeb · 27/10/2024 17:17

I guess if I could pick I’d probably put condoms behind the pharmacy counter too, I get that people may want to buy these items it’s just that as a parent I want to choose when my kids hear about these things rather than just get exposed to them.

I hope you don't think they should put tampons behind the pharmacy counter so you don't have to explain periods to your kids.

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Reserved101 · 27/10/2024 23:43

SwingTheMonkey · 27/10/2024 23:36

Perhaps petition your local store to have them moved to a more appropriate place?

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No, thanks, we're talking major chains and I don't feel strongly enough about it to pick that fight, I just do find it a bit weird.

SwingTheMonkey · 27/10/2024 23:43

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I was going to say.. greasy sandwich bag

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SwingTheMonkey · 27/10/2024 23:41

GrumpyPanda · 27/10/2024 23:36

As a matter of fact there are both names and female condoms, it's just that the female ones never really caught on that much commercially.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_condom

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I cannot think why… 😂

Pureasthedrivensnowww · 27/10/2024 23:39

I'd feel happier about the situation if I really believed that it had naturally evolved through gradually liberating ourselves from the hangups of the past and choosing pleasure in a healthy way. It just doesn't feel that way. It feels more like the insidious influence of marketing bullshit, which has infiltrated and corrupted our lives. I find it sad, not joyful, that intimacy is now just another product to sell us

what a hilarious hot take masquerading as intellectual. ‘Intimacy is now a product to sell us.’ Nah mate, just a fucking good orgasm.

cadburyegg · 27/10/2024 23:37

I do feel a bit weird, though, that shoving manufactured items inside every orifice seems to be expected of us all nowadays

OMG I'm crying 😂😂😂😂😂

GrumpyPanda · 27/10/2024 23:36

Completelyjo · 27/10/2024 17:13

I mean really what’s the difference between that and condoms?
One is for males and one is for females making it therefore so much more lewd?

As a matter of fact there are both names and female condoms, it's just that the female ones never really caught on that much commercially.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_condom

Female condom - Wikipedia

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_condom

SwingTheMonkey · 27/10/2024 23:36

Reserved101 · 27/10/2024 23:33

They are, here, which is why I mentioned it.

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Perhaps petition your local store to have them moved to a more appropriate place?

cadburyegg · 27/10/2024 23:34

Sethera · 27/10/2024 17:35

The important question - do they have a special Club Card price?

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Thanks for posting op - have been meaning to get a new vibrator for ages

Reserved101 · 27/10/2024 23:33

SwingTheMonkey · 27/10/2024 23:28

Rest assured vibrators aren’t in close proximity to child targeted products. Unless children are particularly drawn to cold medication, bandages or sanitary towels.

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They are, here, which is why I mentioned it.

NPET · 27/10/2024 23:32

Assuming they're not going to sell them to kids, I can't see the problem. Always good to know where I can find one if I'm desperate.

Pureasthedrivensnowww · 27/10/2024 23:30

I just think fingers and imagination are enough. I don't need much to achieve orgasm.

fuck me, you don’t feel you want one so all women must be denied?

Sex toys are a choice, not essential for sex or for pleasure. And if there are vibrators on the shelf, why stop at that? Why not a whole array of accessories? Why not nipple clamps etc? Would they not also then be fine? Why not a bondage section next to the imported sausages?

who are you to decide they’re not essential for pleasure.

and even if so, lots of things - in fact most things - are non essential. Including imported sausages

you’re embarrassing yourself

SwingTheMonkey · 27/10/2024 23:28

Reserved101 · 27/10/2024 23:23

That's why I don't think it's fair that people who would draw the line before vibrators are being cast (by some) as Victorian-era prudes.

This is the sort of area where everyone has their line. I'd imagine that some who are okay with vibrators being sold, in fairly discrete packaging, would be more troubled by the butt plugs (on sale in Sainsburys) posted a few pages back - particularly as the packaging (with the "deep and deeper" and "play" packaging).

For me, the logical place to draw the line would be before sex toys of any sort, even if some are more clearly "over the line" than others.

I'm actually based in Canada (though from the UK and visit regularly) and your point re. alcohol and tobacco wouldn't work where I am. Supermarkets don't sell alcohol. Many don't sell tobacco products but even those that do have them in opaque cabinets where they cannot be seen (I think this is now the case in the UK, too?). Vibrators, on the other hand, are openly displayed and often in close proximity to all-age or children-targetted products. I do find it a bit weird.

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Rest assured vibrators aren’t in close proximity to child targeted products. Unless children are particularly drawn to cold medication, bandages or sanitary towels.