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Vibrators on sale at Tesco, thought it was a bit much

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JustBrowsingTheWeb · 27/10/2024 17:10

Went to buy some toothpaste with my kids, 7 year old wants to see new toy in plastic boxes, it’s rows and rows of vibrators. Is it just me or is this a bit much for the weekly shop?

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justasking111 · 27/10/2024 20:18

Needmorelego · 27/10/2024 19:41

@Missmarple87 do you think supermarkets should also stop selling alcohol, cigarettes, vapes, lottery tickets, scratch cards etc.
These are "adult" products that no one actually needs.
So take them out of the supermarket.
But then you don't need crisps so they can go. And chocolate bars. Frozen pizzas. Even paperback novels or toys or felt tip pens.... anything that isn't basic meat, fruit+ veg, bread, dairy......
But then it wouldn't be a supermarket any more. The whole point of supermarkets is convenience. Everything under one roof. I don't want to have to go to 8 different shops for a weekly shop.

Now you're talking about the Welsh government

shuggles · 27/10/2024 20:18

What the fuck is a "pleasure cup"?

Missmarple87 · 27/10/2024 20:17

Needmorelego · 27/10/2024 20:12

@Missmarple87 yes but many of us on this thread have said that if children asked about these products they would generally be told "they're for adults" giving the clear message that sex is something for adults. When children are old enough to be aware what sex is and they might know a bit more what condoms, lube, sex toys etc if they are repeatedly taught they are "for adults" then it's telling them sex is for adults. Not children.
Selling these products in Tesco isn't telling children they should be having sex.

Nope, it not telling children they should have sex but it's the creeping exposure to a sexual world. The normalisation of bringing sexual preferences into the public sphere. For the thousandth time - something we used to agree as a society to keep children away from until it was appropriate. The breaking down of boundaries.

You have people on this thread trying to compare kids seeing a bottle of wine with a rampant rabbit which is deeply disturbing.

Craftycorvid · 27/10/2024 20:17

Maybe a bit much amid the cauliflowers or the loo roll.

AlwaysGinPlease · 27/10/2024 20:17

@MartinCrieffsLemon You are sick. Reported your disgusting posts.

Notjustabrunette · 27/10/2024 20:16

Slightly off topic, but when I lived in Dubai it was illegal for shops to sell sex toys. Anyway, someone spotted ‘massagers’ which were obviously vibrators in one of the supermarkets. The expat mums Facebook group went wild.

Tryingtokeepgoing · 27/10/2024 20:16

pizzaHeart · 27/10/2024 17:27

and your verdict? 😉

I am hoping it was more a case of ‘every little helps’ than JS’s slogan 😂

SwingTheMonkey · 27/10/2024 20:15

Missmarple87 · 27/10/2024 20:09

Some of us think about things a little more deeply, I guess.

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Ahh, there’s no need. If you don’t want your kids to see the vibrators, don’t loiter down that aisle. It really is that simple and doesn’t need overthinking.

Washingupdone · 27/10/2024 20:14

Horrors. When I started my periods in the early 60s my DM sent me to buy the pads at the local haberdashery, where the packet was wrapped up in brown paper and string, and had to be hidden in the basket, so men were not able to see it. Thank goodness by the late 60s tampons were sold in Tescos. Later when my DD had a BF I bought condoms in the supermarket with the rest of the Saturday shop. Life progresses.

MartinCrieffsLemon · 27/10/2024 20:12

Birdscratch · 27/10/2024 20:10

Alcohol is genuinely harmful and we don’t hide that away.

Shh don't try and logically point out the hypocrisy of "well smoking and drinking is normal so you can sell the poison to kids but just make sure you hide all the sex toys they won't even understand"

Needmorelego · 27/10/2024 20:12

@Missmarple87 yes but many of us on this thread have said that if children asked about these products they would generally be told "they're for adults" giving the clear message that sex is something for adults. When children are old enough to be aware what sex is and they might know a bit more what condoms, lube, sex toys etc if they are repeatedly taught they are "for adults" then it's telling them sex is for adults. Not children.
Selling these products in Tesco isn't telling children they should be having sex.

chaosmaker · 27/10/2024 20:12

those reviews are like something from a porn site/mag

Vettrianofan · 27/10/2024 20:10

JenniferBooth · 27/10/2024 17:15

Whats wrong with them selling vibrators. Ive bought a couple from Tesco And from Sainsburys too.

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Good for you..enjoy 😂

Birdscratch · 27/10/2024 20:10

Alcohol is genuinely harmful and we don’t hide that away.

Garlicbest · 27/10/2024 20:10

Fevertreelover · 27/10/2024 17:40

They are not particularly standing out. Can’t same I’m bothered by them.

Next to the 'Sleep and Stress' shelf seems logical enough 😄

Missmarple87 · 27/10/2024 20:09

SwingTheMonkey · 27/10/2024 20:08

Just don’t loiter down the jonnie aisle long enough for your kids to read the words on the vibrator boxes @Missmarple87. It’s not rocket science.

Some of us think about things a little more deeply, I guess.

SwingTheMonkey · 27/10/2024 20:08

Just don’t loiter down the jonnie aisle long enough for your kids to read the words on the vibrator boxes @Missmarple87. It’s not rocket science.

MartinCrieffsLemon · 27/10/2024 20:08

Missmarple87 · 27/10/2024 20:06

@MartinCrieffsLemon your comments are creepy AF and prove all of my points tbh.

There are lots of vile people who have a vested interest in making sure that sexual pleasure is normalised in the eyes of children.

Oh ye it's so creepy to want women not to be ashamed of their sexual pleasure...

Much better to encourage kids to vape and drink and gamble because that's already normal...

Missmarple87 · 27/10/2024 20:07

Magnastorm · 27/10/2024 20:05

By missing the point do you mean disagree with you?

Yep, think you do.

Supermarkets sell lots of things. So what if they sell little bullet vibes and so what if a kid sees one? Either they are young enough to be brushed off with "that's for adults" or they are old enough to understand what they are. Either way, it's not hard to navigate a world where such things are sold on entirely different aisles to anything a kid would remotely be interested in.

You don't want one? Fine! Don't buy one. If people want to pick one up to have a fun little time by themselves without having to go online, then who cares?

Nope you missed my point and just did it again.

It's got nothing to do with me not wanting to buy one, I don't agree they should be there for the very clear reasons I have set out. It's a matter of principle. I care!

Missmarple87 · 27/10/2024 20:06

@MartinCrieffsLemon your comments are creepy AF and prove all of my points tbh.

There are lots of vile people who have a vested interest in making sure that sexual pleasure is normalised in the eyes of children.

Magnastorm · 27/10/2024 20:05

Missmarple87 · 27/10/2024 20:02

Each of the last three responses to me has missed the point so spectacularly that I'm beginning to think this thread is populated entirely by bored incels or AI bots. Certainly nobody who cares about children.

Sex toys do not need to be for sale in places where children are exposed to them. It's just not necessary. They are easily purchasable elsewhere. Sex is private - not because it's shameful - for many other good reasons, child safeguarding being top of the list.

To be clear:

  • I don't care if you want to buy sex toys
  • women should not be ashamed about seeking sexual pleasure.
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By missing the point do you mean disagree with you?

Yep, think you do.

Supermarkets sell lots of things. So what if they sell little bullet vibes and so what if a kid sees one? Either they are young enough to be brushed off with "that's for adults" or they are old enough to understand what they are. Either way, it's not hard to navigate a world where such things are sold on entirely different aisles to anything a kid would remotely be interested in.

You don't want one? Fine! Don't buy one. If people want to pick one up to have a fun little time by themselves without having to go online, then who cares?

MartinCrieffsLemon · 27/10/2024 20:04

And I don't know why my one comment broke guidelines tbh. Kids do stick things up their bum. And I was clear it was for not sexual reasons.

MartinCrieffsLemon · 27/10/2024 20:03

Warz · 27/10/2024 20:00

Wtaf?

Well, children shouldn't be exposed to sex obviously. But sexual aids are designed to pleasure and don't hurt anyone. Unlike gambling, smoking, alcohol and vaping

Completelyjo · 27/10/2024 20:02

Reserved101 · 27/10/2024 19:59

Okay so it does look like Sainsbury's are indeed stocking butt plugs now.

It is a bit of a shift. Not long ago these sorts of items would be in the 18+ only parts of stores like Anne Summers.

By “not long ago” you’re talking decades, literally decades.

Here’s a vibrator stocked in supermarkets in 2005!

www.marketingweek.com/durex-sexual-enhancement-toy-on-sale-in-supermarkets/

Missmarple87 · 27/10/2024 20:02

Each of the last three responses to me has missed the point so spectacularly that I'm beginning to think this thread is populated entirely by bored incels or AI bots. Certainly nobody who cares about children.

Sex toys do not need to be for sale in places where children are exposed to them. It's just not necessary. They are easily purchasable elsewhere. Sex is private - not because it's shameful - for many other good reasons, child safeguarding being top of the list.

To be clear:

  • I don't care if you want to buy sex toys
  • women should not be ashamed about seeking sexual pleasure.