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To raise awareness of what being homeless is really like.

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PumkpinSpice · 27/10/2024 15:16

Im sorry if this is in the wrong category but I have just made an account after reading a now deleted post on here about how homeless people should be forcefully institutionalised if they refuse to live in a shelter.

It angered me so much but by the time I signed up the post had been deleted so I thought I'd make my own one tho share the reality of these shelters

I myself was street homeless for quiet a long time. I sometimes made use of night shelter, open 9pm until 6am it's basically yoga mats all lined up in a church with no gaps between them, you are lying right next to a complete stranger, its full of men, some are angry, mentally unwell, abusive etc, things always kick off in them and frankly they are a terrifying place to be in as a woman.

Now homeless hostels are different, you are allocated a room, you will likely have to be in for midnight and not allowed to leave until 6am. The ones I lived in had sex offenders, child abusers, drug addicts, alcoholics etc. Some of the incidents that have happened in the ones I lived in include, people being stabbed in their rooms, people forcing their way in to others rooms to beat them up, sexual assault, rape, fires, drug dealings, the list goes on.

I know people might be angry seing homeless people in door ways etc but trust me sometimes it's the best option.

I'm happy to answer any questions about being street homeless or about shelters and hostels

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Ponoka7 · 27/10/2024 15:24

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They come under the 1951 Refugee Convention treaty. Also international maritime law. It's the previous government's lack of will to process people we should be angry about. Oh yes and brexit breaking the French agreements.

PumkpinSpice · 27/10/2024 15:23

Supersimkin7 · 27/10/2024 15:20

Women’s facilities? Dyou think single-sex might be a good idea?

A lot of the women are also violent and can be a real danger, but yes I do believe women only hostels would be great, unfortunately I have never come across one.

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Ponoka7 · 27/10/2024 15:23

I worked for a Merseyside advice drop in. We are quite well off for good shelters, but even so, many were described as being 'full of people who hunt in packs'. One young male had been through the care system and had LD's, there should have been a duty to house him, but the places just wasn't suitable for him being so vulnerable. He was actually better protected in the tent community that is just on the outskirts of Liverpool. Another man, did better doing cash in hand work and being allowed to sleep on a block of flat's stairwell. As you say, as a woman you'd sleep somewhere visible during daytime.

PumkpinSpice · 27/10/2024 15:22

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Tbh I don't know much about the asylum hotels but I will say that during the winter there are winter night sbelters in churches and during this time a lot of European beggars will come over and make use of these shelters so they can beg on the streets, it takes places away from local homeless people unfortunately.

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CamillaCanterbaum · 27/10/2024 15:22

You should put this in AMA I'd you felt comfortable doing so, to educate and enlighten those who want it, because YANBU

PumkpinSpice · 27/10/2024 15:20

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My homelessness ended 4 years ago but I was homeless on and off for 5 years.

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Supersimkin7 · 27/10/2024 15:20

Women’s facilities? Dyou think single-sex might be a good idea?

Attelina · 27/10/2024 15:19

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TheFluentReader · 27/10/2024 15:18

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