Grown man posting too many selfies

I'd be thinking 'why do you think anyone wants to know you're off to get a coffee? is that really as exciting as your life gets?' I'd imagine he is extremely boring and self absorbed to think anyone is even vaguely interested - so it would be a no from me. Although I might take the piss about it first and see how he takes it - you can gauge a lot from that.

Wouldn’t be for me, I am afraid.
I find all the ‘getting coffee’ stuff to be particularly naff.

Did I say I forced anyone to look at my photo and notice me?

Sorry but that’s beyond cringey for a grown adult.

I know a woman who does the same - daily selfies on FB just with ‘morning world’ ‘happy Friday’ ‘coffee time’ etc and she’s 60 ffs. She’s also the biggest most self absorbed drama queen I’ve ever met in my life.

People like her and this man are just me me me me me - inflated sense of their own importance

How are you not embarrassed by the optics that say ‘me, me, me, look at me!’? That why the op is questioning it. Normal grown adults - certainly people in their 40s - don’t feel the need to point cameras at themselves all the time.

Sounds fun, but I'm not into gay men!

Utterly cringe and embarrassing. No man, woman or person needs that much attention. Ever.

However did we all survive in the old pre-internet days without having an easy way of knowing when our friends and family were going to make/buy a cup of coffee, hoover the living room or put the bins out?!

Does he actually have a willing audience for this?

Oh god that is cringeworthy! And so egotistical to think anyone is interested in him enough to want to see it 😂
it would be a no from me, I’m not saying having an ego is necessarily a bad thing per se, I just would be dying of embarrassment to have a partner that did that!

The Salisbury, a predominately gay pub on St Martin's Lane, London - used to get called Sainsburys on account of all the well-packaged meat on display 😅

Cringe, vanity is for women not men imo

MASSIVELY cringey!! That said...my fiance would occasionally do this on social media when I met him and sent me photos on whatsapp about what he was thinking/doing with a photo of his face, thankfully he stopped doing it, whether it was due to me not responding or becoming bored of it. I think it would depend on the amount of times it happens and for what reason?

People are free to use their social media as they want.
You are free to find it offputting. Only you know if it's a relationship dealbreaker

There’s a degree of narcissism in posting updates on every detail of your life / photos of your own face. I’d expect him to have his phone out in restaurants and constantly showing everyone every night out he’s on. I would find it unattractive, yes.

If you don't like it then move on.
Just because someone gets older you think these things are wrong/inappropriate?
So it's only fine if you fall in a certain age/good looking bracket?
Wow so judgmental from everyone.
Id be looking harder at what he's not doing ie telling you his past

Each to there own but the selfie thing is not for me
many people love posting them and that’s fine but it’s a bit shitty to get with some who does this then slag off for it because u don’t like it

Ether accept it or move on

It’s not a red flag - as others have pointed out, the use of “red flag” for every minor imperfection means that it’s lost all meaning.

That said, I agree, it’s not attractive. It wouldn’t put me off if everything else was good and going well, and I do think this habit will probably die a death if it turns into a relationship.

Otw is a red flag in itself

No it's a red flag and would be a complete turn off for me 😖

Is he posing and trying to look good? (That’s be a no from me) or just making his updates more personal? If he obviously wasn’t making an effort to always look good or show flattering shots of himself I’d be ok with it.

Report her boyfriend for posting selfies? Why and who to?

Who exactly would you report this to?
"Hi I'm dating a guy who's posting selfies on his SM! GET HIM!"

Wtf?

The selfies aren't either here or there. Fair enough if it bothers you though.

The refusal to talk about past relationships , or lack of, and being evasive is a red flag.

Since you say you have a young child and can't afford to fuck about and find out (very sensible I might add) , it's best you throw this one back in the pond.