Incident in bar aibu?

He said "Try a shot?"... in which case I would have waited for a shot glass, he didn't say "Have a swig." Sorry but I think your assumption that you should drink from a spirits bottle is weird. Believe you me, I like a drink as much as the next person, I do, but I would never drink from a spirits bottle in a bar - or at home for that matter. I think it was your misunderstanding to be honest and his reaction inadvertently hurt you, he didn't mean to, it was an accident. As a PP said, take an ibuprofen and chalk it up to experience.

If you drank directly from a spirit bottle handed to you by a barman then yes you were in the wrong. Surely you don't drink directly out of large bottles at home, never mind in a bar or pub?!
It's a real shame you got hurt. He could've just verbally said 'no'. But honestly it's just so far from the norm to do that I don't really think you can try and claim compensation or anything. I guess it's worth a try but I'd imagine they'd deny you.

It’s not common to drink from the bottle.

But then again it’s also not common to hand over a bottle.

It was a misunderstanding on your part and nothing to overthink about.
I’m sure he’s dealt with much worse.

I’m not sure why you even mentioned him hurting you.

It obviously wasn’t intentional and comes across as playing the victim so people will agree with you, which isn’t cool.

Not sure why everyone’s frothing and clutching their pearls over ops behaviour (well, yes I do, it’s mumsnet lmao) I think it’s pretty obvious that the bartender was in the wrong here

Was this you OP? 😂

It was a misunderstanding. He was handling you the bottle to sniff like the first time. When you started to drink from the bottle, making it unsaleable and also probably against all the rules, he panicked and grabbed it. It wasn't the best action on his part, but bar staff are not always greatly experienced in optimum customer service. It can be entry level, casual and temporary and tbf that was unusual customer behaviour. Unless you think he hurt you with aggression on purpose, then I'd be inclined to put this down to an accident.

The fact you tried to neck a drink from the bottle is insane. Have you been out in bars before?

I'd love to hear his version of the story. I mean go ahead and complain but I imagine they'll back the sober bartender over an intoxicated customer who was trying to drink spirits out of the bottle. A

You really thought he wanted you to drink from the bottle?

It's not unheard of for some pubs to refill bottles from bigger bottles, probably why he didn't want her mouth round it

It only had a drop left so not really.

I find it hard to believe, that anyone would think it was okay to drink from the bottle even if it was a teaspoons worth.
I'm also surprised that this being MN that noone has frothed on your behalf and said you should speak to the manager, get the bar man sacked and go to the newspapers /social media with the empty bottle along with a photo of you drinking from it,

Mayne not unhygienic but well weird, who drinks spirits from the bottle I'm a bar?

Utterly bizarre behaviour in your part. I can’t imagine why you’d think it ok to drink spirits straight from the bottle in a bar 🤷🏻‍♀️

Oh gosh op 🤣 I’m really sorry your mouth got hurt and that’s rubbish but honestly, what were you thinking?! I’m assuming you were probably a shandy or two down by this stage, as that was rather an odd thing to do. I’m sure he didn’t mean to hurt you but you can’t start guzzling drink straight from the bottle stood at a bar!

Good grief, why on earth would you think it was okay to swig straight from the bottle? Were you already quite drunk? I'm not surprised he grabbed it from you. You are definitely in the wrong here. I don't think you are in any moral position to make a bit fuss about him accidentally banging your mouth, so please don't try complaining to the bar owner. Just let it go, and behave more like a civilised grown up in future.

Yes it was the second spirit, so he offered it to smell, if she liked it the response would be, yes please I will have a shot, or if she didn’t like the smell she could say no thanks. He clearly didn’t anticipate she’d try to drink it out the bottle, and he’s jumped to stop her. Accidentally hurting her in the process.

op just put it behind you. it’s one of these embarrassing things you will laugh about at some point,

I think you both got the wrong end of the stick and he was a bit rude. Under different circumstances it would probably make for a funny story. Did he not say anything when he grabbed it back? Did you not explain you thought he was offering you a shot from the bottle?

I think you both got the wrong end of the stick and he was a bit rude. Under different circumstances it would probably make for a funny story. Did he not say anything when he grabbed it back? Did you not explain you thought he was offering you a shot from the bottle?

I think he was offering you the bottle to smell. He'd told you there were two similar spirits and said you could smell them. You smelled the first, and this was the second. I think him saying "try a shot" is separate - I would have taken it in a salesman kind of way, as in "don't knock it til you've tried it, why not just go for it," not "have some of this for free." A misunderstanding. Hope your mouth is ok now.

He reacted to you ridiculously trying to drink out a spirit bottle, you were silly to do it, he accidentally bumped your tooth.

Non event, move on.

If you were at a bar, and saw the barman letting someone take a swig from a bottle of spirits, would you stay and order a drink?

How’s it classy to let someone swig from the bottle?

Oh come on. The barman probably would have been sacked if his manager saw him allowing a customer to do this.

You were odd not to ask for a glass.

He was massively out of line to grab it and hurt you.

He should have realised it was a misunderstanding and just let it go which is the professional and classy thing to do. He could have easily let you taste it from the bottle as it was already at your mouth.

I can't understand why you thought it was ok to drink from the bottle. Did it not strike you as inappropriate?