Incident in bar aibu?

But then he handed her a different bottle and suggested she try it. Sober me wouldn’t drink from a bottle but drunk me might have taken it literally

This ^
It was really weird behaviour from the barman, really strange to get the customer to pour their own drink even it’s a tiny shot! People are usually drunk in bars - if you hand someone a bottle you can expect they might drink from it, pour it into their friends’ drinks, run off to the dance floor, accidentally drop it etc. I actually think it was odd and unhygienic giving the customer a bottle to sniff. He shouldn’t have yanked it away, it was his error and there were only a few drops anyway

But he handed her a bottle "to smell" - it's right there in the OP

I'm baffled that people think it's normal to stick their mouths round a spirit bottle in a pub.

And Bacardi, lol, which PP seems to believe only comes in one colour.

If he didn't want her to drink from the bottle he shouldn't have handed her the bottle.

I cannot fathom why, even if he had intended for you to drink it. You wouldn’t have asked for a glass… chalk it up to a misunderstanding and move on.

hope you’re not still sore!

Kraken, Captain Morgan, Mount Gay, Goslings to name a few.

You can get dark bacardi...

www.aeliadutyfree.co.uk/luton/en/bacardi-dark-rum-bacardi-black-100024690-en.html

Is not a dark rum - which OP said she was handed.

You're lucky you weren't thrown out

Presumably a business ripping off the customers with fake spirits also has a machine capable of washing the bottle so it can be reused

Bacardi?

@PerfectStorm00 Bacardi? I used to love a Malibu and Pineapple back in the day.

A quick google will tell you that's totally untrue!

Eh? There’s LOADS. A quick Google will show you..

99% of spirit bottles, especially dark rum, are completely opaque coloured glass and covered in writing/branding - I can't think of a rum brand that has a clear glass bottle where you can see the liquid.....

You were both in the wrong IMO; wrong of him handing you an almost empty bottle - if you hadn't wanted it I'm not sure another customer should have been drinking it after you've had your nose in it smelling it. And very odd of you to think it is OK to drink out of a bottle of spirits, however empty. Also wrong of him to snatch it and bump you.

They re-use the bottles and fill with cheaper sprits. Now you drank from the bottle, he has
to open a new one.

Also, don’t drink from bottles

Not sure why you would drink directly from a spirit bottle without waiting to clarify first as it would be very unusual and ill mannered to do so normally. It certainly wouldn't be what most instinctively would done in that situation. I assume you had had a few already, so difficult for outsider to have an opinion on what the actual situation was.

You drank from the bottle at a bar???

Of course YABU. What a thing to do.

In defence of the OP I can totally understand how the instinct to take the bottle could come about. Just an instant reaction without thinking. Or maybe that’s just me 😂

May have been a bit of a silly misunderstanding on OP’s part but equally stupid of the barman to grab from her mouth. He would’ve been in a lot more trouble if her teeth had smashed. Given she wasn’t stealing it saying “NO don’t do that” would have surely sufficed.

I’d be surprised, I mean she was ordering Malibu of all things, which I thought died out with the eighties, it’s also only another 20 percent alcohol.

i think it’s just she misunderstood, left feeling like an idiot as she said and then decided it wasn’t her she should blame him. She’s just embarassed she tried to knock ot back from the bottle in a bar, when he’d handed it to her to smell.

I agree. The fact that he hurt her meant that he was far too rough. If he was so worried about being professional, he failed completely in that. It's no way to treat a customer, even if he thought they were at fault. There were many different ways he could have dealt with it that did not involve hurting someone.

A lot of posters have commented on how it would look in a nice bar to have a customer swigging and yes there is something in that but I think the subsequent sight of him ripping a bottle, that he'd just handed them, out of a customer's mouth and hurting them, would have a much more negative impact to an onlooker if the bar was worried about reputation. I don't think he was justified in reacting that way. Don't we say "use your words" to children?

They had been talking co-operatively up to that point, so there was no reason to assume she was going to be bolshy. Added to which she says she was so shocked she walked out without saying anything, it doesn't sound like she was the argumentative type. I note there's no mention of him saying anything either at that point, even though it was probably obvious he'd hurt her.

The OP misunderstood him and wasn't thinking, but yes she should have waited for a glass or asked for one, I think she sounds like the type of person who is quite suggestable and obedient and when he handed her the bottle and said "try it" she did without thinking.
At the end of the day it was no fun OP, but it's a chalk it up to experience issue.

He shouldn't have grabbed it from you but it's absolutely bizarre that you thought it was okay to drink straight out of the bottle