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To ask would you exploit your kids on YouTube for millions of £s?

104 replies

Laalaalaand · 27/10/2024 08:31

My kids like to watch the channel vlad and niki on YouTube. The parents make between 45 and 60 million dollars a year off their YouTube channels which exclusively feature the children. They seem like sweet kids but they must spend a lot of their time filming all these videos. They have action figures of themselves. They live in the lap of luxury and want for nothing materially but i don't think even if i knew how to make these videos etc that would make me use my children to make money. Those videos will be there forever.

Vlad and niki are the two older children and they seem to be featuring less but the parents have had two younger children and the majority of the newer videos seem to focus on the two little ones.

The cynic in me says that maybe the older children have had enough of it, so that's why they're not doing it or maybe they're not "cute" enough now they're pre teens as the target audience is small children.

Would you do it for millions of quid? Could be argued that they're not doing anything actually harmful to the children so why not if it means the children end up rich beyond their wildest dreams.

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Howdotheydothis · 28/10/2024 07:52

No and I firmly believe there should be tighter regulations about using children in this manner.

Wolfpa · 28/10/2024 07:52

Is it any different to:

politicians putting their families on camera during campaigns.

parents who have decided that their child is the next big footballer so their childhood is dominated by training.

children performing on BGT or the Voice Kids

reality TV including children.

there should be similar to child actors set up saying that a portion of the money earned needs to go in trust to them. They should have to comply with child labour laws but social media is just a media platform like all of the others.

if you could guarantee that I could make 60 million a year tbh there isn’t much I wouldn’t do.

PixieTrance89 · 28/10/2024 06:58

I despise it, children should not be there to make parents money, yes they likely spend money on the children but would they have it without them? Also when the children are older do they get the millions that THEY have made for their parents? I highly doubt it, I don't agree with children being on YouTube at all anyway my daughter wanted to post videos and I told her no, you don't know who is watching these videos and as parents we need to protect our children not shove them in the limelight where they can be targeted

ForChristsSakeBecky · 27/10/2024 20:26

QueSyrahSyrah · 27/10/2024 08:38

8 passengers is the first thing I thought of too. I recently listened to a really interesting podcast about that case and the psychology behind it, in terms of behaviours being lauded and justified by 'fans' and creepingly becoming more and more extreme.

Not for any amount of money would I put my DS out for public consumption. He only appears on our social media to a very select audience and only in stories that disappear, not permanent posts.

What was the name of the podcast? I'd be really interested in listening! @CheeseWisely

MugPlate · 27/10/2024 13:59

Very common. There are “child gymnast” accounts on instagram openly advertising the child (or others) for sale - email and phone numbers attached and many horny comments in various languages with aubergine emojis underneath.

I’ve reported them. Let me assure you, they do not and will not remove these accounts.

Parents have no idea how prolific this is.

Vettrianofan · 27/10/2024 12:51

Bornnotbourne · 27/10/2024 09:08

There was a really interesting channel 4 documentary (I think!) where they found out that the vast majority of viewers of these channels were adult males. They interviewed a woman who had her first period posted by her mum and it made me physically sick.
Parents know what they are doing, look at Ryan’s toy review as soon as he reached puberty his sisters had to start working. Disgusting.

I have always viewed the Kaji family as sinister. Exploiting one then three children like that. Absolutely fundamentally wrong.

Wouldbedriver · 27/10/2024 12:24

oakleaffy · 27/10/2024 11:55

I reported a video I saw on you tube- {about 10 yrs ago}

A man had replied to a comment I'd made, and I clicked on his profile- he had ''saved'' videos of a young girl doing ''gym'' in her bedroom, all on her own in unsuitable clothing {To appeal to predators}

Her parent /s must have set her up with a webcam and clothes specifically for this.

This poor little child had lots of comments saying ''She does requests'' {For specific movements} and the parent /s were raking in the ad revenue.

I was horrified, and reported it to you tube, saying how absolutely dangerous it was and child exploitation.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-42110068

That’s really disturbing!

These days there will be as much risk from children using their own smartphones to film videos themselves. In a sense it’s less worrying as there isn’t a parent exploiting them. But actually in some ways even more worrying, because if there’s no parental oversight at all, they are directly at risk from predators who may still find ways to contact them.

Posting to YouTube is bad for children too because from a young age they will be conditioned to chase likes and followers. Which for girls in particular often come from learning to objectify, beautify and sexualise themselves.

And honestly if YouTube creators could see mugshots of who’s actually watching their videos I think most of them would stop!

Fargo79 · 27/10/2024 12:17

Nanny0gg · 27/10/2024 09:31

You would still have no control or idea about how their image would be used, so you'd have to hope it wouldn't come back to bite you (or them) in the future

I understand that. But as a parent who is likely to die while my child is still very much dependent on full time care, being able to remove all the financial barriers that come with that would probably be a risk worth taking. The 100% chance of being able to afford the best quality care for them for the rest of their lives would outweigh the smaller chance of their image (not actually them, their image) being artificially manipulated and used exploitatively by others.

Back in the real world where nobody is guaranteed to earn anything from posting their kids online, let alone £60m a year, it remains an abhorrent thing to do and should be illegal.

oakleaffy · 27/10/2024 11:55

Wouldbedriver · 27/10/2024 11:08

YouTube is better than Instagram I think, because in recent years it’s largely stopped anyone commenting on videos created by under 16s. They were made to do this by public pressure.

I reported a video I saw on you tube- {about 10 yrs ago}

A man had replied to a comment I'd made, and I clicked on his profile- he had ''saved'' videos of a young girl doing ''gym'' in her bedroom, all on her own in unsuitable clothing {To appeal to predators}

Her parent /s must have set her up with a webcam and clothes specifically for this.

This poor little child had lots of comments saying ''She does requests'' {For specific movements} and the parent /s were raking in the ad revenue.

I was horrified, and reported it to you tube, saying how absolutely dangerous it was and child exploitation.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-42110068

Tristar15 · 27/10/2024 11:43

Never. I wouldn’t do this to my child. Okay we won’t have millions of pounds but she is safe and loved and not being used as a money making tool. I can live with that.

Lottemarine · 27/10/2024 11:42

No it’s exploitation, I think it’s wrong as a parent to do that to your children. I wouldn’t post my kids on social media anyway. You just don’t know who is looking at them..

MammaKel · 27/10/2024 11:41

Absolutely not.

You have no idea whose watching the content and I've seen in the past vile people using images of edited (and sometimes non edited) SM children on the dark web and other seedy sites.

stormmclean · 27/10/2024 11:40

And also a ban on children appearing in humiliating, degrading or sexualised content - no more filming naked or in underwear/nappies, potty training content, periods.
No filming or monetising content of children in distress or being punished.

stormmclean · 27/10/2024 11:38

No, I wouldn't do it to my own children and I think there should be much stricter rules on child performance.

  • performance permits for children appearing in monetised content
  • limit to filming hours
  • independent on-set chaperones monitoring child welfare during filming
  • close monitoring of education ensuring these children actually go to school or have proper tutoring
  • a decent amount of the money (eg 50%) being kept aside for the child for when they turn 18.
oakleaffy · 27/10/2024 11:34

Nanny0gg · 27/10/2024 10:42

Is that UK or US?

Because wouldn't Social Services or Child Protection have a view on that?

Think in USA from accents.

But this account has been roundly condemned.

www.parents.com/mom-of-tiktok-preschooler-wren-eleanor-facing-backlash-8612986

whatisthebabyname · 27/10/2024 11:32

Absolutely not. I bet it's not worth it. On another note, my DS got obsessed with watching their videos so we had to ban YouTube. His behaviour was awful while he was allowed to watch it and improved drastically once we banned it. I found that very interesting.

Apolitia · 27/10/2024 11:25

my child knows aomeone from one of these families. The child is a really nice, well-balanced and well-travelled kid.

personally, I wouldn’t do it, as I find it very odd and exploitative but they seem to be the acceptable face of all this. They’ve made millions from it all and have spin offs.

Mulhollandmagoo · 27/10/2024 11:22

LadyMacbethssweetArabianhand · 27/10/2024 08:53

My older grandson became addicted to Vlad and Niki and worryingly started to mimic their tantrum like behaviour. The films are now banned in our houses. I know that isn't quite what you were asking, but an offshoot of these children thinking they can get away with anything.

Same here! YouTube on the whole is banned now, I'm generally quite relaxed about screen time but YouTube/YouTube kids are a hard no for my daughter.

Miloarmadillo2 · 27/10/2024 11:15

My neighbour does this on TikTok and Insta - massively over sharing her kids private medical information and bad behaviour and making them perform for product placement ads - plus infantilising her ‘little boys’. Their address, school etc are easily identifiable.
They are bullied at school and she posts on our road WhatsApp about strangers knocking on her door late at night but she can’t see any connection…..
I hope she is saving some if the money for the therapy they are going to need when they are older.
It’s abusive.

GrumpyMenopausalWombWielder · 27/10/2024 11:15

I'm old enough to remember Jon & Kate plus 8 & how destructive that whole set up was for their children in the long term. As tempting as all the money is, it's really not worth the fall out & harm that this sort of exploitation can cause.

Wouldbedriver · 27/10/2024 11:08

YouTube is better than Instagram I think, because in recent years it’s largely stopped anyone commenting on videos created by under 16s. They were made to do this by public pressure.

Wouldbedriver · 27/10/2024 11:06

Hardlyworking · 27/10/2024 10:52

The analytics will be massively skewed though, as most kids watch these videos on tvs and tablets set up by their parents, and I'd bet most family tvs are set up by the dad. Hence most popular target for most kids crap is males aged 25-34. Doesn't mean the men are actually watching though!

I can see how that could be the case.

But a lot of people have separate YouTube profiles for each family member. When you open up the app on a TV it asks who’s watching. Each account has a different algorithm and serves up different content depending on the viewing history and YouTube’s idea of who each viewer is.

So the adult accounts shouldn’t have any kids content at all.

Hardlyworking · 27/10/2024 10:52

Wouldbedriver · 27/10/2024 09:16

YouTube has an analytics page that any channel creator can look at, that shows the age and sex of viewers.

And as you say, it will be grim. Children and families try to grow their channels but are they thinking about who is watching and why?

YouTube fails to keep adults out of children’s spaces, just as it fails to keep children out of adult spaces.

There was an article the other day saying age verification through facial recognition technology might be one way forward. But I don’t see how that could practically be enforced.

The analytics will be massively skewed though, as most kids watch these videos on tvs and tablets set up by their parents, and I'd bet most family tvs are set up by the dad. Hence most popular target for most kids crap is males aged 25-34. Doesn't mean the men are actually watching though!

Nanny0gg · 27/10/2024 10:44

Hippywannabe · 27/10/2024 10:03

I followed Emily Fauver for a while. She was quite sweet at the time. However , on Tiktok videos of her daughter dancing and jumping on the trampoline with flashes of underwear have been saved many times. Some of the dancing could be viewed as a performance.
Many people have told her that pervs would view the dancing as suggestive. She just laughs it off.
She had another baby last year who is also being trained to react to the constant filming.
It is sad when a 5 year old girl wants to 'talk to my friends' on camera or asks her Mum what people want to see .

Which is how OnlyFans works 😡Envy

Nanny0gg · 27/10/2024 10:42

oakleaffy · 27/10/2024 09:56

There is a mother who was mentioned on here {Mumsnet} who exploits her child who is very young on ''social'' media.

Shockingly, most of the content is of the little girl eating pickles and the comments are disgusting from adult males.

The mother earns millions.

Absolute exploitation of a tiny child.

Hundreds of thousands of predatory masturbating males.

Is that UK or US?

Because wouldn't Social Services or Child Protection have a view on that?