To throw my hospital bed neighbour’s phone out the window

Ask to move! Ask for a private room if you can. I moved with my first and only one of the person in the room and with my second said I'd only stay in if I had a private room, they obliged.

If you can't sleep and you're able (I don't know the reason you're still in) discharge yourself. I was in 2 nights with both but I found out after my second that I could have had my catheters at home (bladder complications both times). This is dependent on your baby being discharged too of course.

No point doing the same, some people really think that’s the only way to have a call, and don’t get annoyed by others. That said, I’m totally with you, this uncivil behaviour is crap

Why are you still in? Tell the staff if it's for rest and recuperating you best off going home. I spent nye in one year. Staff woke us up at midnight. Next morning the woman opposite got 12 visitors. One pulling a hamper of food and champagne.. I discharged myself and took dd home. Bonkers...

Join in the conversation! She'll soon stop...
The mother next to me in hospital played the birth video to all her many visitors with sound on. I still can't forgive or forget a decade later.

Hattie Jacques would've thrown the phone out of the window and told them they're next if they do it again.

I might be showing my age.

This is exactly why I discharged myself early from the maternity ward. Some people are so inconsiderate.

She just may not care!

Sorry you are feeling like this! You want to be at home anyway but when you have this going on too it makes it worse. I remember with mine in the day being the time to get some sleep whilst on hospital. I would definitely tell the midwife they will sort it. They don't want you disturbed & agitated. I used to work on maternity wards as a HCA & the staff want a calm chilled environment hence the limited times & amount of visitors. I hope you are home soon in a calm home cuddling your baby sleeping when you can. Congratulations on your new arrival xx

Definitely mention to the midwives. This happened when I was in hospital after DD was born. One patient was constantly on the phone on speaker, shouting at her visitors and then to top it all off she snored so loud! Hope you get home with your little one soon

First of all congratulations on your baby!

I am so sorry. Had a similar situation when I gave birth except it was visitors during the day and phone calls at night. She caught Covid (from one of the legions of visitors?) and so was moved for my second night...

Can you ask to move? Or get a midwife to tell her to get off the phone? Some midwives can be brusque - try to find the most blunt !

good luck xx

Agree, I would be so embarrassed that people can hear my conversation!

Get the hospital staff to intervene. Say that you are exhausted and you can't deal with this anymore. Some people are just so selfish it's unbelievable !

I would definitely ask a midwife to intervene.
My local hospital is a bit of a dump, with a relatively new maternity unit. All private ensuite rooms. No wards.
Thank god for that hospital planner.
Congratulations on your baby.

Kensington Wing?

I feel your pain, I encountered this too. She repeatedly told each and every contact in her phone the same recount of the birth. Boy, she had so many people she needed to tell.

@HowFarToBanburyCross It was £150 I was willing to part with for the night.

This is all well and good but it's not within the grasp of most people. At the hospital where my DC were born, they haven't done private NHS rooms for years, so if you wanted your own room you had to go across to the private wing at a cost of £1300/night. And even at that eye-watering price there was a waiting list - one of the women in my postnatal bay was up to the midwives' desk every couple hours to ask whether she was first on the list yet!
OP, definitely ask the midwives to tell her to pipe down. If you need to threaten to self-discharge due to her noise, then so be it.

Another reason I opted for a homebirth last time and this time!

Congratulations on your new baby! I used to work on a maternity ward, and honestly the best advice I can give is speak to your midwife or MCA. They will be understanding and used to handling these matters sensitively, they will quietly ask her to keep the noise down.

Tell her!

Can you turn that (bloody) phone down please? It’s really loud.

Why are people like this ?

Arrogance, ignorance and general rudeness OP

For all the good they can do, mobile phones can also be the bane of Mankind

YANBU

This is why I paid to have a private room. When dd1 was born I had a huge room to myself, which we paid nor. Second dd was quick, we were home by midnight with a bbq on the go and a glass of wine in hand.

There are also nurses on maternity wards.Various other healthcare workers as well.

Please ask the midwives to intervene. I am a midwife and I absolutely would ask her to pipe down for you.

Mums who have just given birth want to be somewhere calm and quiet and safe. It is so weird the way we have created this loud, bright, stressful environment to spend the first 24 hours with our new babies. I have never felt so hyper-alert and stressed as I was with my newborn on the maternity ward. I felt like a terrified animal who wanted to run and hide.