To throw my hospital bed neighbour’s phone out the window

Just understand 'the staff' clearly couldn't care less, otherwise this wouldn't be a problem. Why are you posting on here if it's beyond you to be sympathetic?

I'm really surprised the air stewards didn't say anything to her. They're usually pretty hot on getting the cabin dark and quiet for night fights.

Someone did this to me when I had my first. Calling people all night, loads of visitors all day, everything at full volume. After a couple of nights I complained and it turned out she used to work there so clearly the normal rules didn't apply. Discharged myself the next morning, still too weak from blood loss to lift my baby.

Yes. These rules apply in a workplace. Let’s get them applied in public places. Hospitals, trains.

The smoking ban worked. Tech noise pollution might not cause cancer but it certainly causes anger! A campaign, signage, posters everywhere to give more confidence in people to raise and address it personally…

I was on a plane where a woman was playing a movie on her phone out loud.

I think her AirPod headphones may have run out of battery. It was an overnight long haul flight and everyone around her was trying to sleep. I offered to lend her my headphones, which she declined then turned it down, and soon after, off.

How can someone be so utterly rude and unaware I don’t know. We need to rewrite the social contract re public behaviour and noise, as tech has ripped up the old one.

The ward can make as many rules as they like but unless the Sister is tough and the staff team with her, they don't get enforced. Protected sleep and rest should be a campaign.

I think every maternity ward should have a business case prepared and ready for constructing more single rooms. You never know in the NHS when the money might be available.

Hope you get out soon.

No I only heard her end of the conversation. Multiple times to different people telling them she was calling the baby Lily and surname.

I had the woman in the bed next to me playing with her ringtones at 6 in the morning at full volume. FUCKING RINGTONES.

Then she phoned and was shouting breakfast cooking instructions at an elderly man who I could also hear shouting back at her, both shouting over each other so having to repeat stuff.

I had one on FaceTime till the early hours too, and another who had their phone on loud on the table and would just leave it to ring in the night too. The post natal wards are horrible.

I hope you can get home today, it really does make all the difference. I was waiting all day for the doctor to discharge us but I definitely would have discharged myself if they had taken much longer

Can you discharge?

You shouldn't have had to ask her. The staff on the ward should have asked her.

I stayed in for several nights after my csection and at least 2 nights there was a woman with a laptop/iphone watching a drama on full volume late at night that was set in a hospital ward that revolved around still birth and pregnancy loss - there was at least one woman in our room who experienced loss in that time (honestly you wonder what the hell is wrong with some people’s brains or if they are just sociopaths). The noise was waking me and my baby but the content I think must have been upsetting to that woman and troubling for women waiting to deliver. If I wasn’t on pain relief and dealing with other emotions I would have complained - it is hard post birth to know if your just being emotional and over reacting. I would say it to a nurse - I wish I had!

Seriously, who cares. Nurse, midwife….. so what!

There is a special place in hell for people who do not use headphones.

Technically a midwife is a type of nurse. Baby nurse ☺️

Yes, in a fairly large NHS teaching hospital. In hindsight, I’d also have married a millionaire, but…

I’m a midwife where I work there are 3 private rooms and you can’t pay for them. They’re kept for either mental health patients with plans postnatal / mums of babies that are very unwell to shield them from that or infectious patients/ postnatal readmissions. They are always in high demand and never not empty.

I get really stressed hearing speaker phones in any environment - the bus, cafes etc, God knows how I'd manage if I was in hospital. It's so much more annoying than just talking. It's the frequency or the speakers or something.

I don't think mobiles phones from that long ago had speakers, did they?
Or do you mean she was using her Nokia to call everyone?
I didn't get my first mobile until DS (now 25) was a few years old (though I think I was a bit behind the crowd!).

I feel your pain, I had one of these people 😩 I was counting down the hours til the morning. She was leaving her baby to go out to smoke then when the doors got locked she was over at the window and I couldn’t see for the curtains but I wasn’t convinced she wasn’t leaning her head out the window smoking. She was vaping in her hospital bed 🤦🏼‍♀️ I was the only person in the room with her so it was near impossible to be able to say something to the nurses and I didn’t have concrete proof she’d smoked out the window but I was so sure she had! The worst!

looking back it feels like it went by in seconds though. Take a video of your newborn in the middle of the night, cuddled into you. You’ll look back on it.

Hope she gets off her phone soon!

When I had my twins it was one of the night shift midwives/nurses that kept me awake. Walked around slamming doors and talking loudly in the corridor all night long.

It’s like there is a rule that you must not sleep in hospital after having a baby! And my mother wondered why I was in such a rush to be discharged home…

Midwives / nurses do the most amazing job in ever-more difficult circumstances, but there does seem to be this expectation that birthing is traumatic, and that if you haven’t gone through an awful experience, then you haven’t done it ‘properly’. This is one reason (of many) that we put up with this sort of thing. It needs to stop!! OP - I hope it has for you now.

I have no idea why people have started doing this. Why would anyone think this is OK?!! It is awful. Ask a nurse to tell her this need to stop. It’s a shared space and people need to rest.

I’ve seen so many threads like this about every different type of ward and I honestly think it is worthy of a campaign- NHS Trusts should be saying they won’t tolerate speaker phones, or device noises at all after say 11.30. There are headphones, there are options. Imagine being on a plane where everyone watched something different and played it out loud. It wouldn’t be tolerated