To throw my hospital bed neighbour’s phone out the window

I was on the induction ward when a delightful young lady arrived for observation on FaceTime to her partner. It was during Covid so he came for visiting where he kept asking her to get her tits out and give him a blow job behind the next curtain. When he left he was back on FaceTime all the way on his his journey home, while calling her a dickhead, cunt, that baby is not mine, it will be a different race etc, absolutely vile. This abuse continued all night, I had earplugs to try and drown it out and finally drifted off I think after 1am. The next day it starts again so I spoke to the midwives who said ok we’ll keep an eye on it, but in reality they weren’t in the room that often because there was only two of us. She kept going outside to smoke weed, despite being advised that we couldn’t leave the ward because of Covid. I hadn’t seen my other child for 3 days at this point. The second night, in my half asleep stupor I just shouted will you fucking shut the fuck up and she went crying to the midwives and complained about me! Anyway they immediately moved her, hurrah! The post labour ward there was another nighttime FaceTimer and a lady who just repeatedly sang monotone la lee la, for hours over and over. Absolute arseholes, all of these people. I’m confident that the lack of sleep in hospital contributed towards my pnd.

I fucking hate people. Don’t get me started on the absolute delight I shared my bay with when I had my DS, her husband asked for my help with the baby as he was very small and was under his clothing to keep warm - his blankets had fallen off but he had his arms under his jumper holding the baby so couldn’t sort it and she had had a section so couldn’t get out of bed - I went to help and when her Mum arrived and took her outside in a wheelchair for a cigarette she was telling her Mum in a really loud voice that I was a “stuck up cunt”. Charming. At least I didn’t smoke when I was pregnant and end up with an underweight baby (that had to be taken and put under the heat lamp in the end because he was too cold). She came back from having a cigarette and told the staff the food served was disgusting, stuffed a load of chocolate and crisps from the vending machine and then threw up all over the floor and then told the midwife to go fuck herself when she wouldn’t take her out for a cigarette after visiting was over. I don’t know how midwives do it, I really don’t.

I agree, some people seem to have never been socialised or they have appalling situational awareness. The problem is they can get away with it as they can threaten violence if challenged and anyone bar an authority is powerless to retailate, so the selfish behaviour is validated and continues, ultimately developing into entitlement.
As the saying goes, civilised people are more discourteous than savages because they don't fear having their skulls caved in. It is not just with phones, I can think of several situations where thoughtless behaviour inconveniences others, and having lived in several different parts of the country over the last 30 years, the problem is worse in SE England.

I might have been thinking similar... 🤫

I was in hospital for several weeks, my bed neighbour used to talk to her cat on the phone multiple times a day!

It wasn’t while I was recuperating but while I was waiting to be induced. Woman opposite and what I thought was her older son, turned out to be her baby’s father, I kid you not, had a very loud farting competition 🤮 it was gross! And so loud. Fortunately they didn’t keep me there long

Why are some people so oblivious to those around them???! I was in on my third child, having been induced. Girl in the bed opposite me was in and out (it was post-covid rules) to go and see her husband who then left at about 11pm, not before giving her a massive bag of McCoys. In the otherwise silent ward all I could hear was her rustling and munching and then chatting on the phone. And then SHE had the audacity to huff everytime I had a contraction (which I was breathing through but not making any other sound).

Joke was on her a few hours later - my labours are wild and I’m fairly sure I scared the hell out of her (she was only a few months pregnant and in for observation).

Same thing happened to me. After a 41 hour labour and a horrendous delivery I was very tired. The woman in the bed opposite me phoned just about everyone she knew and described her labour and delivery in great detail. She didn't have her phone on speaker but considering how much she was talking I don't think anyone on the other end managed to get a word in anyway.
Finally got some peace when she went for a 45 minute shower during which time she just left her newborn baby alone next to her bed.

I discharged myself from hospital after having my c section because of this as well. Mine was 10 years ago next week. It was absolute hell on earth. I had a tall stack of meds to take home with me as I had an infection but it was so worth it.

sounds Bliss what a fab experience

I nearly threw my maternity ward neighbour out the window. Sadly it was locked. Nightmare.

I think normal people wouldn't be like this. There are some people who just go around in life not giving a sh*t. And as I get older there seems to be more and more of them.

Phones get snatched all the time. Just pretend you’re a hoodie on a bike.

Yes I don't blame your dsis the noisy type of person doesn't have any consideration or sense that their behaviour may be out of order

This behaviour definitely drives many of us to utter despair, anger and to see red

I wonder whether if women did physically lash out in response the hospitals would quickly change the rules to ban any audible noise from phones, or taking of phone calls on wards?

I know violence is never an answer - but a few cases of phones tossed out of windows by stretched to breaking point new mums on maternity wards could lead to fast and decisive action by the authorities?!

It's because that's how they see scripted reality stars using them (TOWIE etc). Because they're thick and easily suggestible, and have no self-awareness, they think that's how its done.
Ask the nursing staff to move you, say it's affecting your mental health and will ultimately affect your friends physical health ;-). Congrats btw

Not the maternity ward, but I was admitted to Urgent care for a few days after an anaphylactic shock thing, never been allergic to anything, all very weird. Anyway, opposite me was a mh patient who had a one on one nurse watching her 24/7. They struck up a conversation and would not stop, early hours of the morning. I eventually went to the nurse in charge who was working at the other end of the ward. She was quietly fierce with them both, thank god.

Another time, following a very serious accident, a woman opposite kept making pain noises, I felt for her, probably really was suffering (we were in the emergency section) but this was days and she only did it when she had the ten visitors round her bed. There was no escape, I couldn’t walk.

Congratulations on baby ! hope you get out of there and proper sleep soon (well, probably in about 7 years time going by my experience).

Off topic, but when my mum had me (early 70’s), there were strict visiting hours, dad not allowed in except for an hour a day, babies taken away over night and only bought back to mum for feeding) which sounds Victorian now - BUT it meant the ward was quiet(er). And mum made great friends with her bed neighbours who remain close family friends still. So not all bad …

Whenever this happens on trains I have a huge urge to speakerphone Rage Against the Machine on maximum.

Never done it and the idea is obviously so PA it's sad, but people can be such dicks.

It's probably because they want to feel as though they have some kind of power in an otherwise empty shell of a life. Like teenagers and angry people that walk in front of cars, forcing them to slow down.

There's a woman who lives down our street who walks round and round the block on a daily basis having loud conversations on speaker phone. So annoying. The conversations are not in English which is probably a good thing. DH says he's tempted to get out his angle grinder to drown her out as she walks past!

I was in a hospital and someone was watching a video without earphones late at night.

I just shouted over "do you have earphones?"

I don't take it off them

I understand your frustration. When I was on the maternity ward the woman next to me was watching a documentary on her phone late at night with the speaker on instead of using earphones like a normal person. The documentary was about children getting rapd and murde*d. Me and my husband slagged her off loudly so she would hear us, like “read the room”, “what kind of psycho watches that after giving birth”, etc. We heard her crying but I don’t even feel guilty cos I didn’t hear her phone again.

Did you tell her to stop?

I've definitely told people to stop when they were being too loud.

Wait until she's asleep and then throttle the bitch.