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To find this annoying? Or am I being a video game snob?

61 replies

PizzaByTheSlice · 26/10/2024 17:15

Last night DH was up until 3am playing videos games. Fine - we are all in bed most of that time and he was up at 9am this morning.

We went for a long walk this morning and then just having a cosy afternoon at home.

My two sons are 2 and 4 and a handful!

DH has been in the shed from 12 & is still going (just gone 5pm) playing video games. He will probably come in for dinner and then go back out there until bedtime. I have asked them he comes into the house to be with us but he says that we are just hanging about & relaxing and he wants to do the same - which is true - but playing/watching cartoons with two very hyper boys are who would argue over just about anything...isn't exaclty relaxing for me.

I don't know that maybe I'm being a video game snob though. I just think if you've played video games from 9pm to 3am on Friday night, you don't need to start playing again at 12pm for god knows how long.

And yes he does this quite a bit. But if I'm out or at work - he is really active with the kids, but if i'm at home - he disappears to play video games.

AIBU to think it's a bit much?

OP posts:
ShiningforLeeBertie · 26/10/2024 17:29

Robodogbringthedinopatroller · 26/10/2024 17:20

It’s just another selfish man hobby. Golf, football, gaming, car tinkering. All the same opting out of family life. Hard fucking no from me.

People are allowed hobbies, whether they are "man hobbies" or dare I say "woman hobbies". Just because you don't like them doesn't mean they are any less valid than any hobbies you may have.

The issue here is not the hobby but the fact it takes over family life, and that's not right. I'm a single parent, I have hobbies but do not leave parenting my kids to someone else while I pursue them. It's a question of priorities, as well as only having hobbies on an approved list it seems

burnoutbabe · 26/10/2024 17:28

Radiolala · 26/10/2024 17:20

I’m not into video games (because I’m a grown adult) but you could replace it with painting, gardening, reading and it still wouldn’t be ok as he is putting it before his family. He’s not engaging in family life.

I am also a grown adult of 50 and love video games.

But the issue isn't that, it's just him leaving his wife to the crap stuff. Equal time to relax however you want is only fair.

RevelryMum · 26/10/2024 17:26

Unless he is a 16 year old it's not acceptable. He sounds like a man child

TinkerTiger · 26/10/2024 17:25

Did he magically develop this addiction with the birth of the first child, or the second?

tryingsomethingnew · 26/10/2024 17:21

My DH plays quite a lot for a weekend, then doesn't play for months. He should get bored of it. If he doesn't then you'll have to say something, but if this is a new thing, or rarely then do t stress. It's a way of them de-stressing IMO.

bestbehaveyou · 26/10/2024 17:21

i was on your other thread where you said he was “useless” your marriage was shite and by the end you said you would be pursuing divorce

I guess that’s fallen by the wayside?

Robodogbringthedinopatroller · 26/10/2024 17:20

It’s just another selfish man hobby. Golf, football, gaming, car tinkering. All the same opting out of family life. Hard fucking no from me.

Radiolala · 26/10/2024 17:20

I’m not into video games (because I’m a grown adult) but you could replace it with painting, gardening, reading and it still wouldn’t be ok as he is putting it before his family. He’s not engaging in family life.

bestbehaveyou · 26/10/2024 17:19

What kind of a benchmark do you have for what is reasonable and considerate behaviour?

None

bestbehaveyou · 26/10/2024 17:19

Sad that you’re even wondering OP

OhMyGollyGoshGosh · 26/10/2024 17:17

YANBU, it sounds like a bit of an addiction.