Muddy walk: who IBU

You find some accommodation with options so you can have a couple of good walks on your own while he potters round the wheelchair friendly stuff. And a bit of Hadrians Wall with a museum so you can walk and he can mooch

I personally do not enjoy walking- just don't find it fun. My DH is from a family who love a walk.

On occasions where I've gone with them I am often long done before they are, so I'll go back at a point it makes sense and then I'll go and sit in the car (or the cafe if one of available), they don't come with me they continue the walk until they are ready.

You should have continued the walk and just let him go back and wait in the car. You didn't need to end your walk too..

I used to be on the other side of this.

My family, especially df liked walks. I do not. Apparently not going was missing out on wonderful family time. So I'd be "jollied" into going. I did not appreciate this.

A typical walk with my df leading would be:

1. 2-3 times as long as he'd given the impression it would be (I remember one "quick stroll for a couple of hours", asking him how much further when we'd been out for 3 hours, and he pointed to a hill in the distance. "See that hill. We're aiming for the one just beyond that." It wasn't a circular route either)
2. Include at least one pathway that was either muddy over the top of shoes level, steep, or both, and maybe overgrown with brambles too. No I didn't wear trousers, but tbf to df, he was probably wearing shorts.
3. Through a farm. Dogs love df. He'd walk through with them wagging their tails. Then they'd turn on us out of frustration that he'd gone. Or something like that.
4. Through a cow field. See above.
5. Dm's special pack lunch. That included a still-frozen drink and soggy sandwiches. My superpower includes being able to dispose of entire pack lunch sitting next to my family without them noticing. Lack of food/drink gives me migraines. Not good.
6. A very long wait while he gets the binoculars out to identify the speck in the distance which might, but probably isn't, the lesser spotted grey neck beasty. This will be in a very windy exposed place where there's nowhere to sit down. This will be repeated a few times.
7. Getting lost. Normally meaning either walking round in a circle, or him deciding there's a short cut. See point number 2.
8. Another long wait while he discusses with the local farmer the merits of the particular brand of sheep/cows/wheat they stock. Even the farmer is bored of the conversation long before df is. Repeat for unusual breeds of dog.
9. Stopping as the sun goes down so he can get a sunset photo. He has some lovely ones. Wish I'd only seen the photo.
10. Coming back after dark with no torches etc. Anyone that thinks climbing up Pendle Hill on Halloween, don't. You meet some very weirdly dressed people going up. The only advantage in this is that when you're as hopelessly lost as we were, at least there were some people to ask directions of.
11. And the hunt for the car. The car isn't where it was left. Or at any rate where he thought it was left. So a hunt in the darkness until we found it. Occasionally dm used to find a phone box first and we'd have a debate about at what point calling the police and reporting it stolen was a good idea.
12. At this point, never before, df would suddenly realise how muddy we were. Not a speck of mud should be going in the car. So we'd be brushing us off etc until we were allowed in. And then he'll moan when it's light about the mud in the car.

So when we got home, then dbr as the youngest would be sent for a bath, while the rest of us stood on newspapers so not to get mud anywhere. Dbr, as the irritating younger brother, would naturally make sure his bath went to Guinness Record Book attempts for longest bath.
Then it would be a quick baked beans on toast meal, followed by having to scrub our trainers (we only had 2 pairs of shoes normally) in order for them to be acceptable enough for PE the next day.

Tell him to stay at home and enjoy the peace.

@Ezekiela I would have thought holidays should be discussed between you both? Not just planned by you? If you desperately want to go to Northumberland and he doesn't then go by yourself for a long weekend and let him do whatever he wants to do that you find boring for a long weekend. Holidays together should be something you will both enjoy - it may not be easy to find something you can both agree on but there must be something. Maybe going somewhere that will allow you to hike off the beaten track but that also offers things he likes. Obviously I don't know what he likes otherwise maybe I/we could make some suggestions.

You'll both have to compromise, or go on your own if you want a walking holiday, and then he gets a week (or whatever) to holiday wherever he likes too.

OP how serious was your DH injury? Is he elderly or otherwise frail?

@Ezekiela It is, I was just demonstrating what your DH might have had in his head when he asked about a path. I can confirm it gets damp and muddy in places in wet weather but nothing that couldn't be picked around in trainers if you're careful.

Can't you do the walks while he does something else?

@MereDintofPandiculation Yeah it's particularly dreary when the red squirrels are playing in the trees alongside, and when you get right to the end and are confronted with this view well you might as well just chuck yourself under the nearest bus instead

@Ezekiela - apologies I meant not walking where it was muddy or afraid of falling when I said not wanting to do something.

Just go on your own from now on unless it a 'proper' path

I was thinking the same thing. If I slipped and made my back injury worse I would be gutted

you are not unreasonable to be niggled by this. You are unreasonable to let it fester so just learn from it.

You go on walks alone and go where you want, or you take DH and you both compromise a bit.

I had an injury, popped a calf muscle, and even when I'd recovered from it, as it happened out of the blue I was worried it could happen again. I've had it happen twice in my life, once in each leg.
Dh and I went for a walk which involved a steep step section. I started to go up, but could feel my leg starting to get a bit sore so said I couldn't go any further and was worried about getting back down again, so he said that's ok. We came back down, went back to the car and went on a different walk. No one was upset with the other and we got to have our walk in the winter sunshine.

By my standards that is a really good path.

Right?! It's something one of my munro guiles would describe as clear and excellent.
From OPs DH whingeing I'd expected bog or scree.

I don’t think the “He delayed me for two hours” narrative is fair. You asked him and he told you up front that he couldn’t come for two hours so you could have said if you had to go earlier but maybe next time.

Looking at that path I would be fine in trainers but if he’s whiny about mud then that’s annoying in anybody on a walk tbh.

If he has recently had an injury it’s fair to be cautious. I don’t know if it’s an upper body injury somewhere else or in fact a broken finger like you stated. If it’s the later it’s less reasonable but if that’s an exaggeration on your part that’s also less reasonable.

TBH I think it’s not a big issue, just a bit annoying for both but at least you know what it’s like now and have done a recce for your next walk there.

How depressing that path looks! Might as well do circuits of your local park.

By my standards that is a really good path.