To ask what you’d do if you were 37 and TTC naturally for the first time?

I wouldn’t do anything other than plenty of sex for now. If you have problems conceiving, you can look at all the other stuff.

37 isn’t old. I know many women who have got pregnant quickly and easily at that age.

@LuckySantangelo35 nor can I, I didn't mean the orgasm has to happen while the p is in the v but asap afterwards while sperm is in there would be helpful! Most women can (I hope) finish themselves off after penetration and ejaculation has happened

Op if you get the book what yo expect while you're expecting there's lots of good stuff in there about conception too x

One has nothing to do with the other you're being ridiculous.

I was being helpful. If you don’t understand the difference between correlation and causation, I think you should be the one to pipe down. My friend tried for 3yrs, gave up drinking, completely changed her diet, had acupuncture, etc. The month she decided to toss it all in, drank way too much, started smoking again (hadn’t smoked for 15yrs) - she got pregnant. By your sound scientific reasoning everyone should take up smoking and drinking because she’s living proof it worked for her!

I conceived at that age - it’s a normal age in London

we used the sperm meets egg method and I took vitamins to help my cycle. It could be luck of course but it worked in a few cycles both times - with my 1st and 2nd (first cycle with my 2nd using SMEP plan actually)

I conceived super quick with my first, then it took me ages conceive with my second. A miscarriage and three years later and I finally fell pregnant with my daughter.
So, I went from being super casual to pretty obsessed with ttc.
Things that helped me was tracking my basal body temp, keeping an eye on mucus (sorry if tmi) and using ovulation tests to know exactly when I was ovulating. I also took an expectorant (guaifenesin) whilst ovulating which helps keep cervical mucus thin and allows sperm to move more freely.
Also don’t DTD too frequently during ovulation otherwise the concentration of sperm will decrease. We did every other day.
Good luck and hope you get that BFP very very soon ❤️

Alcohol can affect your hormone levels and menstrual cycles. I don't suggest putting your life on hold but cutting down on drink seemed to help my cycles regulate.

I’ve conceived twice at 37 (miscarriage with the first pregnancy). As others have rightly stated, taking your supplements and DTD every second day especially around ovulation.

When I had the miscarriage (it was a later mmc) I asked the consultant at my review checkup if there was anything I could do to help the next time. She recommended a higher dose of folic acids as older women have a higher rate of certain birth defects which can lead to miscarriage and higher folic acid can help prevent them. It’s a few years ago now so I can’t remember the dose but worth speaking to your gp about

My number one tip is to ignore (or tell to bog off) anyone who tells you not to stress/relax/etc. there is no evidence that state of relaxation impacts conception so don’t get yourself in a tizz trying to “relax”.

Second tip is read “it starts with the egg” and follow as much as you feel able to. Definitely take the ubiquinol, regular pregnancy vitamins don’t contain enough CoQ10 and get your husband on a
good sperm vitamin. Use a sperm friendly lube as well. Sounds like you already have limited alcohol and a healthy diet covered. Any other “tips” are just anecdotal with not much science behind them tbh.

Focus on having regular sex every other day or so around the fertile time (but make sure you also cover a good few days either side). The “storing it up” thing is not true beyond 2-3days and there is some evidence that sperm over 4/5 days old deteriorates in quality and needs to be cleared out. Some men produce better sperm by ejaculating every day (again some evidence this is true for those with poor morphology), but there’s no evidence that doing it more than once a day or two increases chance of conception.

I got pregnant by accident at 36. Don't overthink it just go for it.

Took me 6 maths to conceive at 36 but only 1 at 39. Ovulation test were great.

I tried for three years and finally had ds at 36. Then a surprise dd at 40 that we definitely weren't trying for. Good luck op!

Penetration alone, yes. I'm one of those who can't. Using something like a bullet works in this case for me.

OP, the above is what we did the month we concieved (although i was younger, at 30). We luckily fell first month. We also used cheap ovulation sticks (which I didn't find helpful) and moved onto Clearblue Digital Ovulation sticks. They were much more helpful for me. We focused on the 4 days around ovulation- day before peak, peak day, estimated ovulation day, and the day after.

I'm now in month 2 of TTC at 34 and doing all the above but also with the addition of Preseed lube. Other lubricants are thought to not be so sperm-friendly!

TTC since 36 no luck, had all kinds of tests nothing showing. Cut out alcohol, caffeine and ate a very healthy eating. Now 40 and 38 weeks pregnant wish I’d just gone alcohol free years ago tbh.
Was always using ovulation sticks to check is ovulated, as soon as period finished DTD didn’t wait to ovulation.
Also partner cut alcohol back completely, odd glass of red etc, he was always training for marathons etc, first time he wasn’t training for anything. Not sure if coincidence. Hope this helps, good luck! Xx

I was 36, took us about 6 months, but that was without putting pressure on ourselves, tracking cycle etc… I had the attitude of if it happens, then great, if not, then great too.

DC born happy and healthy, it was a bit of a hard road back for me physically and a tricky birth, but that can happen at any age.

i didn’t bother with folic acid etc… until I was pregnant, then took it religiously per recommendations.

Good luck OP 😊

The stats on this show that women whose HCG levels were low didn't find coffee unappealing, and also were high risk for miscarriage. So it's miscarriage risk -> drinking coffee, not the other way round.

Sex every 2 days.
myo inositol.
pre natals.
no alcohol and cut caffiene.

I don’t think I ever managed to get a positive on an ovulation stick, including the month I got pregnant!
agree with pp about egg white mucous. DTD when this shows up/just before is the best bet!

@Sugargliderwombat

“Also, stop drinking if you drink.“

im not sure putting your life on hold like that is the best advice!

@Unexpectedlysinglemum

not every woman can orgasm during penetration.

You aren’t particularly old OP ! I got pregnant the first night we tried, at 42.
I got pregnant in the third month of trying at 40. Just have sex when you are just about to ovulate and through ovulation. 🤞.

Easier said than done but managing stress. I found acupuncture helpful.

My gynecologist said that the best sign of ovulation was clear stringy mucous. It beat counting days, temperature taking and predictor kits. It was definitely true in my case as I conceived on day 25. The specialist apparently used to fall about laughing when people mentioned rhythm birth control.

They're not wrong. After a few months of nothing happening for me I used digital ovulation sticks and pinpointing my most fertile day absolutely worked for me. Twice.