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To wish we hadn’t bought this house

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wishihadntgottgishouse · 26/10/2024 08:32

I’ve had this thought for a long time now. 2.5 years ago we bought a detached property in a new build area. Tbh we were desperately looking for a home and at that time a house would come on and be sold within days. It was so hard finding a home. I really never liked it but as DH kept pointing out it’s his money and I don’t contribute (I’m a stay at home mum but have gone to work part time when kids in school recently).

the thing is the elderly neighbour next to us keeps telling me we got scammed as he’s got the exact same house (new builds all the same) and he paid considerably less than us. He bought his 6 months before us. He keeps telling us other neighbours who bought a better home paid less than us. So we’re the second family to live here and we paid £190k more than the first family who bought it 4 years ago before us. I don’t know how to get over this. I feel really embarrassed when neighbour brings it up. My husband has let the house get ruined as the paintwork had chipped of and shower leaking has caused marks in hallway ceiling. I’m embarrassed of having anyone come in. Everytime I try to speak to him he tells me to use my own money to fix the problems. I’ve only just gone to work and I don’t earn much.

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Needmorelego · 26/10/2024 08:40

Don't house prices usually go up after the first buyers?
(unless it's a run down place that had the same little old bloke living there for 80 years?).
Your issues aren't with the house.
It's your husband. You're married. Whatever money comes in should be joint. No his money/my money - it's family money.

wishihadntgottgishouse · 26/10/2024 08:40

Yes we’ve always had separate bank accounts. Been married 12 years now

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XiCi · 26/10/2024 08:39

Your neighbour is a complete idiot. Does he not realise house prices go up and down? Just completely shut him down next time he mentions it.
Your DH sounds like an abusive wanker

NunyaBeeswax · 26/10/2024 08:39

"I really never liked it but as DH kept pointing out it’s his money"

Listen. Really close now.. real close.. imma whisper...

Any man that said that to me.. would be an ex before the end of the sentence..

Pack up, fuck off and find a perfect little place just for you.

Dragonflysparkles · 26/10/2024 08:39

2dogsandabudgie · 26/10/2024 08:36

How does your neighbour know how much you paid for it? The next time he mentions it tell him that he's being rude and walk away.

Do you and your husband have separate finances, ie separate bank accounts?

That’s publicly available info? You get it via zoopla or th4 land registry, I thought that was common knowledge.

op, how did your husband let the house get ruined. How is it his fault? Did he do the damage?

it doesn’t sound like you like each other, at all, his comments on money are horrible.

wishihadntgottgishouse · 26/10/2024 08:39

2dogsandabudgie · 26/10/2024 08:36

How does your neighbour know how much you paid for it? The next time he mentions it tell him that he's being rude and walk away.

Do you and your husband have separate finances, ie separate bank accounts?

I think everyone knows everyone’s business here. He might have looked online and saw how much we paid. After he told me first time I looked and he did indeed pay a lot less than us and it was 6 months before us

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user1471538283 · 26/10/2024 08:39

Tell your neighbour to never speak to you again

Then tell your DH he can't have it both ways. Apparently it's his money so his choice of house. So why would you then have to pay to keep it in good condition? What with it being his house

He's in for a shock when he realises that it's not his house at all.

2dogsandabudgie · 26/10/2024 08:36

How does your neighbour know how much you paid for it? The next time he mentions it tell him that he's being rude and walk away.

Do you and your husband have separate finances, ie separate bank accounts?

cryinglaughing · 26/10/2024 08:36

Tell your neighbour to drip their poison in someone else's ear, you're not interested.

Your DH on the other hand seems a bigger problem 🤔

Paintbyalphabet · 26/10/2024 08:36

You have a husband problem

Couldyounot · 26/10/2024 08:35

DustyLee123 · 26/10/2024 08:33

Your DH is an arsehole.
And stop talking to the neighbour.

Edited

First response, as ever, nails it

wishihadntgottgishouse · 26/10/2024 08:34

Sorry if not making sense so this home has had another family living here and they sold 4 years after buying so let’s say they bought the property for £600k (not real amount) they sold it and we bought 4 years later for £792k

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Notmanyleftnow · 26/10/2024 08:34

Your problem is not the house.
I'm sorry.
I wonder why you are with someone who respects you so little?

DustyLee123 · 26/10/2024 08:33

Your DH is an arsehole.
And stop talking to the neighbour.

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