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Wibu to pull my daughter from certain classes

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PepaWepa · 26/10/2024 06:13

My daughter's year 3. I wrote a post recently regarding ADHD.. to cut a long story short, I've been bringing ADHD up to the school since March 2022 but have been dismissed and ignored with it. At parents evening recently, looking through her books, I noticed her English book was simply full of negative, demotivating comments regarding her work. I enter the parents evening meeting, and they start by telling me how good she is at English, with reading level age of 11 and reading comprehension age of 12.
So I asked about the comments in the book, and they go on to list all the signs of ADHD for why she's not finishing her work etc etc and receiving such comments.
I haven't been able to let it go since, I'm absolutely fuming that they've let her struggle and even more so I'm devastated that my daughter is being left to feel shit at recieving such negative comments in a subject she is so highly capable at. She's so sensitive and I have noticed more recently that she gets frustrated and embarrassed now when she's not able to do something right first time. I feel like all of this has to be contributing.

I want to pull her out of her English classes until they accept and support her properly with an ADHD diagnosis.

To add as I think it's relevant, I also have suspected ADHD, and was expelled from a school age 14 following an incident in English class re me not finishing my work on time. I won't let my daughter face what I had to go through.

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Noideawhatiam · 26/10/2024 06:28

It honestly sounds like the best option is to look for a different school.

Most primary schools teach English every day, and not necessarily at the same time, so it won't be a case of just missing school on a particular day or going in late/ pick up early. Both of which will trigger fines and a referral to the local authority.

English is a core subject that all schools must teach, if you want your child to be removed from those lessons you will have to remove her from school entirely.

Are there really no other schools she could attend because your current plan isn't realistic.

Sirzy · 26/10/2024 06:28

How can being withdrawn from a core subject (how would that work anyway?) help her in any way?

have you been to the GP with your concerns?

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PepaWepa · 26/10/2024 06:28

Phillipa12 · 26/10/2024 06:25

Who will be supervising your DD for the 1hr a day that they teach English? If you actually manage to get the school to agree. Also if you are that worried about possible ADHD, and I get it, I moved one of my DC as his old school were brushing my concerns under the carpet, new school are not and can see that there is something, are you doing anything about a diagnosis through drs etc?
Also, everything that NOID said.

I will be.

Yes, I had a referral done through the GP at the end of 2021, however, we moved area in March and had to start the referral again. It was then that I approached the school with my concerns, and they've genuinely been so awful and dismissive of the whole thing that I lost any confidence to pursue it again, until now.

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Phillipa12 · 26/10/2024 06:25

Who will be supervising your DD for the 1hr a day that they teach English? If you actually manage to get the school to agree. Also if you are that worried about possible ADHD, and I get it, I moved one of my DC as his old school were brushing my concerns under the carpet, new school are not and can see that there is something, are you doing anything about a diagnosis through drs etc?
Also, everything that NOID said.

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PepaWepa · 26/10/2024 06:19

Noideawhatiam · 26/10/2024 06:18

Assuming you're in the UK there is no provision for parents to selectively remove their children from some lessons, RE is the exception to this. You can obviously raise your concerns with her school but if you want her to be removed from English lessons then you will have to deregister her from school and Home Educate her full time.

There may not be but I would anyway. I would face whatever comes with that. The school have been absolutely awful over everything I've ever raised with them and I don't know what I'm supposed to do about that, but my daughter comes before any rules and regulations.

Just to add, I don't expect them to happily give me permission with this. I'll just tell them my reasons and how they have failed her with their attitude towards the whole thing. I'm willing to face whatever repercussions come with that, and take it higher if I have to. I'm just wondering if this is what's best for my daughter.. I don't care what the school think anymore, they've been truly awful.

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Noideawhatiam · 26/10/2024 06:18

Assuming you're in the UK there is no provision for parents to selectively remove their children from some lessons, RE is the exception to this. You can obviously raise your concerns with her school but if you want her to be removed from English lessons then you will have to deregister her from school and Home Educate her full time.