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dd messing around in class

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FlakySwan · 26/10/2024 05:20

dd1 is 14 and now is in the end of year 8 (year 9 in the UK) at school. In the parents teacher conference, some of her teachers have reflected to me that her attentiveness in class can be improved.

I have talked to dd1 about this, and she told me that since at her school the year 7s and year 8s use the same textbook and are accessed on the same things, just at different levels, she already knew everything from last year for some lessons, so she just joins in the classmates who are messing around (quietly).

I feel conflicted about this as I value a good attitude in class and to learning, but I also see little harm in her not paying attention as long as she is on top of things and does not disrupt class.

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Werecat · 26/10/2024 05:33

FlakySwan · 26/10/2024 05:31

I have asked the teachers if this is possible, but they all said that if would be best for dd to follow along in the lessons as she will be taking the same exams.

Then the teacher shouldn’t be surprised that she’s messing around. She’s bored and no one, even the most intelligent adults, can tolerate boredom for long.

FlakySwan · 26/10/2024 05:31

MumChp · 26/10/2024 05:24

Of course she should stop messing around. It's not ok.
And ask the teacher to provide your daughter with work matching her level.

I have asked the teachers if this is possible, but they all said that if would be best for dd to follow along in the lessons as she will be taking the same exams.

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MumChp · 26/10/2024 05:24

Of course she should stop messing around. It's not ok.
And ask the teacher to provide your daughter with work matching her level.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 26/10/2024 05:23

She's encouraging and validating others that aren't at the same level and is also avoiding any extension work of her own - as well as undermining the teacher.

There are more useful ways for her to behave in class than that.

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