Child saw friend regularly for play dates and all seemed fine when 1 on 1. In school the friend was belittling, name calling and putting down child in front of others resulting in child crying most days. Culminated in friend hitting child. Called friends mother and she had a word with her child - told them that isn’t how you treat your friends etc and friend hasn’t been mean to child since then (2 months give or take). However it turned out this wasn’t the first time friend had hit child.
DH is furious and has banned friend from home forever and not allowing child to see friend. I disagree but there’s nothing I can do about it. Have tried to talk to DH to see if child and friend could perhaps see each other on a very limited basis and keep an eye on their interactions but he says no flat out and it’s not up for discussion. He wants to protect child, which I understand. But also maybe friend will behave now their mum has told them off. Both are final year of primary school.
I’m in a really awkward situation because I really like the friend’s mum. She’s so nice and keeps asking for the kids to spend time together and I just have to keep saying we are busy. What can I say to the mum without blaming it all on DH?