To confess this and ask for help

Don't feel ashamed; you met a guy, you wanted to have sex with him, he reciprocated, you did. But don't entertain any false illusions, either: it was sex. It's over. And if he tries to contact you again ... why on earth would you bother? You have to know that the shite he told you about a connection and specialness is nonsense given that he's still with his ex current girlfriend and demanding that you lie to hide your "connection".

I had the most amazing time with him but he said that he can only contact me in the days when he's at work. Um, wrong: the only time he can contact you is never.

Use this experience as a learning tool: next time don't be embarrassed to tell someone right up front (before having sex) that you don't want to get involved if they're already involved with someone else. It's big thing these days to pretend - ohhhhhhhhh, I didn't KNOOOOOOOW you thought I was single when I aggressively came on to you. Tee tee tee, we were just having fun - you like fun, right ???? Don't fall for the manipulation; be prepared next time to know and hold your boundaries and if necessary to state clearly what you do and don't want.

The only things you know for sure about him is you like him in bed and he's a lying cheat.
The rest you are writing in your imagination to suit the narrative of him being more than that. You don't know him.
Rewrite the narrative to be, Well that was fun. Glad I don't have to deal with all the drama that one would bring.
And put it to one side.

I’ve been the girlfriend in this situation, I feel sorry for her.

He didn't expect to "catch feelings" for you, and he "never intended to cheat" 😆😂... You not only have incredibly low standards and no morals, you are also deluded.
The only person I feel sorry for is his girlfriend.

You deserve each other.

You know nothing about him.

Tbh it sounds like a line - I would love to commit but despite my feelings I must remain true to my girl back home. It my be true it my not be - dealer's choice.

File this under fun flings in far flung fantasies Nd get on with reality.

Try hating your dirty cheating partner.

I assume you slung him out.

It was a holiday fling, leave it at that. You don't want a relationship with someone who cheats on his girlfriend.

31 years married - met on holiday. It does occasionally work out..

at your request, without being too harsh, he maybe told you he had a girlfriend cos the truth is worse that he has a new one every week / fortnight.
still the advice above is perfect, delete him everywhere, move on, get yourself checked over and put it down to a holiday romance that you haven't been scammed from

This guy has a girlfriend though, so it's obviously not going to work out in this case

Even if he were single, holiday romances seldom work out in "real life".

Right. You have experience of this?

My sister's ended up in 50 years of being together. He died of Covid.

Mine ended in divorce. Have a fabulous child though.

You never know how life works out.

He’s played you for a good ‘un OP and wants you to carry on being his bit on the side at home, but only when it’s convenient for him of course. He’s pulled out all the lines to make you feel special but all you are is easy sex to him.

Do you want to be that person, sitting by your phone desperately waiting for him to message and pining over him while he’s playing happy families at home?

Move on you can do better, and next time avoid people in relationships.

It was only amazing because it wasn't reality. Swanning about in beautiful places, eating and drinking in lovely restaurants, have sex whenever you want.

Back to reality. People have jobs to go to. Cleaning, washing up, laundry to do. Sat in traffic jams.

If you were actually to have a relationship with this person it would be nothing like it was. Plus, you know he's a cheat.

Park it as a holiday fling and move on.

Don't flatter yourself.
He's a cheat and if it hadn't been you, it'd have been some other gullible fool.

Forgive yourself.. and also remember he's probably done this many many times before. what country was it, as rhe chances are he has learned exactly what to say to get you into bed ...and you need to be a little less naieve.
He can only call you in the week... u do know what that's about dont you....?
It's a holiday fling.. you donr know him.
You will be fine .

“Catch feelings” 🙄🙄🥱

This point here is exactly what I came to say.

You know the saying "once a cheat, always a..."

The only connection you had was your fanny to his cock I'm sorry to say.

This is going nowhere.

Save what's left of your self esteem and block him.

You were a holiday fling.

Yuck.

JFC. Have you ever read any of the threads on MN about women who have been cheated on?

What a nasty piece of work.

Even if he were single, holiday romances seldom work out in "real life". You know being his bit-on-the-side-when-there's-time isn't an option, if you're honest.

Guilt and shame are pointless emotions. Put them behind you, and concentrate on finding a relationship that can work, if romance is what you want.

Have happy memories of your holiday fling, we've all had them.
Then forget, block and move on, he's a cheater and not relationship material

Get yourself checked, just in case.

Enjoy the memories.

IF he was single when you met him, could it have worked out? Is it feasible? If the answer is "no" then move on and don't contact him. If the answer is "maybe" then still move on and don't contact him, but leave the door open in case he does decide to become single.

But then, could you ever trust him?

He never intended to cheat ???? Bullshit

Read a book on increasing your self esteem. Get checked out for STDs. Forget about him.