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Mum cut DD's hair

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sillyme563 · 25/10/2024 20:52

Without asking. She came home like this.
Are there any hairdressers here who can recommend what to do?

Mum cut DD's hair
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sillygoof · 25/10/2024 22:44

How does it look with the rest of the fringe in place?

BookishType · 25/10/2024 22:42

Omg, I’d be beyond furious. I hate fringes as it is, and that’s an abomination. You can only clip it back and wait for it to grow out.

But your mum has crossed a line. How dare she!

Thereislightattheendofthetunnel · 25/10/2024 22:39

sillyme563 · 25/10/2024 21:14

she had tied it all up with clips so it wasn't visible and I only noticed it just now!

I resorted to the same solution for a couple of months until my DDs fringe grew back. It was me who did the damage in the first place.

Your mum had a go herself trying to be helpful, but it backfired, because she can’t see properly, which is a bit scary considering how close are the eyes to the forehead.

MrsSunshine2b · 25/10/2024 22:39

What was she thinking? Is she mentally well?

I would take her to the hairdressers and avoid leaving her with your Mum again until you know what thought process led to this.

Hardroad · 25/10/2024 22:33

Nchanged89 · 25/10/2024 22:11

Honestly...?
A bit of both sometimes.

😂

IOSTT · 25/10/2024 22:31

Sweep it to the side until it grows out

BMW6 · 25/10/2024 22:28

Meh, DD is 2 so hardly likely to suffer social stigma.

I'd just even it up myself and let it just grow out.
No 2 year old needs a hairdresser for goodness sake

My own niece chopped off chunks of her own hair with paper scissors around that age and said "the fairies did it".

This is a nothing.

Mumwithbaggage · 25/10/2024 22:24

Left my parents at my house and went out for lunch one day. My dad chopped down a tree!! THAT didn't ever grow back. Wasn't happy.

Frequency · 25/10/2024 22:22

My mum did this to my DD when she was around the same age. I have no freaking clue why given that I was a qualified hairdresser with all the right kit and could have trimmed DD's fringe a few hours after she did when I got home from work, where I was being paid to cut other kid's fringes 🤔

I was a bit bemused but I wouldn't say I was livid. I didn't laugh at the time because DD was distraught. I waited until she went to bed and then I laughed 😂

We all laugh about it now although I'm still confused as to why. Mum also still butchers her own fringe on a regular basis. She comes to my house every Sunday. It would take 30 seconds for me to trim her fringe. It does take me 30 seconds to trim it after I notice she has butchered it again and offer to fix it for her.

Maybe it is a generational/nana thing.

ALunchbox · 25/10/2024 22:20

Just cut that straggly bit off and that's it.

TiredGoingToBed · 25/10/2024 22:20

Buy a hairband or clip it with pretty clips.

A hairdresser a can just even it out, which will make it shorter.

I would be cross with your Mum, I imagine she feels guilty.

Both my girls when young, cut their own hair, one had to be corrected by a hairdresser, she created a fringe for herself!, and cut off great lengths on one side.
It was much worse than your daughters.
My other daughter cut off half of her long hair at the back. She wore bunches for months until it grew back, one was much thinner than the other 😂😂
It was curly so less noticeable, just a lot less volume.

noctilucentcloud · 25/10/2024 22:19

The things that'd worry me most are 1) how is your daughter feeling? Is she worried / not bothered / any other kids likely to notice/care - which probably depends on age. If she is bothered by it, pretty hair clips etc so your daughter feels confident until it grows back. 2) assuming it was your mum (and not her covering for your daughter or one of your daughters friends or another young relative - I cut my sisters hair for example when I was 7) then is her eye sight good enough to be doing things like using scissors around eyes. Has her sight deteriated recently, does she need to see an optician. Does she need any more help around the house etc. Is she still driving. I wouldn't be too upset at your mum having done the haircut, unless your daughter didn't want it done. Your mum overstepped but I wouldn't go nuclear.

ForGreyKoala · 25/10/2024 22:16

Remaker · 25/10/2024 22:02

IKR? Apoplectic over a haircut 🙄Do people on MN have rage issues or just prone to exaggerating?

I think a lot of people on MN are very strange. Most people I know would just laugh.

Frequency · 25/10/2024 22:13

Ah, if there is more fringe to cover it just get the top layer trimmed at a salon and it will cover the rest. It won't take more than a few weeks for the shorter bit to match up to the rest.

Gnomy · 25/10/2024 22:13

Your mum needs a new hobby. It’s like role reversal where the granny thinks it’ll be fun to play with the scissors.

Flossflower · 25/10/2024 22:13

I would really worry about your mother and if she is capable of looking after your daughter. She knew she couldn’t see properly and wouldn’t make a good job.
If I did this to one of my grandchildren I don’t think my child would be speaking to me for some time.

Moveoverdarlin · 25/10/2024 22:12

Don’t take her to the hairdressers, aside from cutting more off there is nothing they can do. I would just keep clipping it back. In six weeks time it’ll be ok again.

MaggieBsBoat · 25/10/2024 22:11

It’s literally a crap fringe!
It‘s a toddler. It’s irrelevant to her and it’ll grow out.
Bloody hell.

Yes she shouldn’t have done it. Have words. But seriously it’s just some hair on a small child!!!

Nchanged89 · 25/10/2024 22:11

Remaker · 25/10/2024 22:02

IKR? Apoplectic over a haircut 🙄Do people on MN have rage issues or just prone to exaggerating?

Honestly...?
A bit of both sometimes.

sillyme563 · 25/10/2024 22:10

She has a heavy fringe, and this is a small layer of it that's been cut. The whole thing was in her eyes so I'm guessing she cut it, it wasn't even, she cut it a bit more, it wasn't even, etc etc.

I'm a bit mad at her but it will grow back and it's not the end of the world. I think it's salvageable as the heavy fringe (which is still intact) might be able to cover it, or as others have said just fix it with clips etc - after all I didn't even notice until several hours after she was dropped back.

DD is barely two and can't hold scissors, and has no idea what's gone on. While she's asleep and not wriggling about I might try to assess the damage and keep you updated!

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purplebeansprouts · 25/10/2024 22:09

OwnBrandCornflake · 25/10/2024 21:53

Neaten up like this and it will soon grow

It only works on the model as she is and adult,incredibly feminine and wearing loads of makeup

Pennyplant19 · 25/10/2024 22:08

My Mum did this to my daughter when she was around 5. I was livid! She was apparently helping as she claimed my daughter 'couldn't see' so hacked cut a horrendous fringe. My daughter is 27 now, my poor old Mum has advanced Dementia - we smile about it now 🤭

Talapia · 25/10/2024 22:07

Lord, it's like my hair in the 1970's.😂

It will grow, but make it clear to your mum that she is not a hairdresser!

AspirationalTallskinnylatte · 25/10/2024 22:07

That is very funny! A crap self done hairstyle is a right of passage. I'd double check it was your mum before you say anything.

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 25/10/2024 22:07

Are you sure your mum is trying to cover for your daughter getting hold of scissors?!