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To expect a better bye than this?

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CraftyMentor · 25/10/2024 20:47

I’m leaving my current place of work. Things happened very fast. I work on education. I applied for a role on a Monday which offered progression. Got shortlisted on a Thursday, got called into interview and landed the job on the Monday following on.

I had wanted to leave for a while. I pushed through for a long time but I hit breaking point and just needed to go. HT found out through LM this Tuesday. The whole week went by and I never got a congratulations or anything.

Decided that today I’d hand my notice in and I do hard copy and email copy. Decided to pop in and speak to the HT about this and formalise it ans as a matter of courtesy just leave on a good note sent her an email asking when she was free. Got back “super busy. Free after x time if you’re in” . I walked into the office and got “ I already know what you’re going to say anyway before you say it. I asked your LM because I needed to know things from a staffing POV.(not wanted to know if you were successful so I could wish you the best or anything) So I said “yes I just wanted to have a quick chat really that’s all and let you know considering it’s been 3 years I’ve been here” and I got “can you ask your school to push back the start date” my response was “it’s not negotiable unfortunately”

some of the slt have said they’d miss me someone else who is slt also mentioned id be hard to replace etc but. I actually would have appreciated it if the ht offered me that same reception.

AIBU for expecting a bit more than this. (Not blowing my trumpet but I know I’m good at what I do and dedicated to it.)

OP posts:
NancyJoan · 25/10/2024 21:38

At our school, it’s considered a courtesy to let the head know if you are going for an interview, which is possibly quite old fashioned, but it’s what everyone does at our place. They may feel you have behaved badly; our Head certainly would feel that way.

Sweepsthepillowclean · 25/10/2024 21:36

Nobody cares. Honestly.

WYorkshireRose · 25/10/2024 21:35

You're leaving. It's an inconvenience for the HT as they now have to replace you. But that's all it is, an inconvenience, because no matter how good you think you are or anyone else tells you they are, you're just a person who does a job that someone else will be doing once you leave. It's all any of us are as paid employees. So maybe stop expecting fanfare and you'll be less disappointed when you don't get it 🤷‍♀️

purplebeansprouts · 25/10/2024 21:33

Yabu. Why do you want a fanfare. Wait till your last day and feel salty then if you must

Pandasnacks · 25/10/2024 21:31

Maybe they will say that you when you actually leave, right now they need to sort the practicalities.

ForPearlViper · 25/10/2024 21:29

I presume you aren't actually leaving until the end of term? What do you expect at this point, everyone telling you how fantastic you are and begging you to stay?

For your HT and SLT you are another decent teacher moving on, however much they liked you and felt you were doing a good job, but they've got other priorities. They have now got problem of how to fill your job in a difficult market.

When you leave, I imagine you'll get what most people in the working world get - a card and a gift and, if you are lucky a nice speech. Next day, everything will move on without you.

That's the reality of the working world.

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