To expect a better bye than this?

Nothing deep and meaningful about being polite?! if someone came to my office and said they were handing in their notice for a promotion / leadership role, is a normal response not something along the lines of oh no, I'm sorry to hear you're leaving, but congratulations on the new job / promotion. No?

Of course the fact they're not leaving that day doesn't mean a manager can't do professional niceties such as this? On leaving day is when colleagues might say their actual goodbyes. Honestly, what is wrong with the world. A simple tone of interaction can make all the difference. It's really not that hard to be nice.

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She hasn't even left.

I don't get it, am I missing something? She wants to be told bye when she still works there. The deep and meaningfuls come on the day you leave, surely?

Op I'm shocked at these comments tbh. I'd be absolutely mortified if anyone at my work addressed someone who was leaving like that! Of course it's professional and courteous (and totally normal!) to at the very least congratulate you on the new role, say something along the lines of we'll be sad to see you go. Of course it's disappointing for them but you put that aside and deal with it at an appropriate time. I think she sounds awfully rude and unfortunately like someone who gives no fucks about her staff except for their performance. No wonder you're leaving! I work in the NHS and despite crying out for staff, everyone is always supportive of opportunities others take so having the headache of losing staff and sorting a replacement isn't an excuse to treat people like shit.

You're not even leaving yet. Why would you expect a 'bye' when you still work there and haven't left?

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That will come in the week/day you actually leave, where they might do something for you/drinks/cake or something. But you haven't even left yet so why do you want her to say goodbye yet? I don't get the point of your thread. It's very odd.

Match her energy.
The HT was rude.
Not surprised you are glad to be leaving.
Suit yourself and hopefully the move will be positive.

Ah sounds like it’s the right move for you and this will hopefully confirm it for you.
it is a shame you’ve been on the receiving end on hostility like this- you are entitled to apply for other roles and sounds like you have been transparent throughout the whole process.

Listen, we are all just a number in the workplace. My team manager is brutal about people leaving. She couldn't give one shiny shit other than the hassle of replacing them. I think she's actually secretly pleased when one of the long-timers leaves because she knows she can replace them with an ass-kissing promotion-hunter yes-person. The older lot are more forthright and opinionated, and she can't stand to be challenged (especially if the challenger is right!)

I've a colleague who retired recently after an entire lifetime working in the organisation since they left school, and are in their mid 60s. Not a thing has been done. I've raised it, and got nowhere. I think it's disgusting.

In no time at all, it will be "Crafty" who? same as it will be "Runner" who for me. I worked in the same place for 20 years at one point, and tbf they did give me a decent send-off but in 8 years I've met up with one person twice, and that was only because they were off on long term sick leave. Some of them like my posts sometimes on Facebook!!!

Don't overthink it, really. It's not personal. Just be glad you're escaping... and look after number 1. Good luck with the new job.

As a HT I think this is poor. Of course when staff leave, it is a hassle - but that’s life. People move on and it’s right that there is some movement, especially when staff are seeking progression. It would be the reasonable and nice thing to do to wish your staff member best of luck and congratulations. I wouldn’t take it personally- I imagine they will simply be doing continuity planning and that can be complex.

I think we all learn sooner or later that workplaces don't care. Right now they're focused on finding your replacement/getting things sorted without replacing you.

She may have known about the interview but you hadn't been and spoken to her personally about it until. Few days after she found out.

Was it a Monday this week you found out you were successful?

If the HT has known about this for a few days, had to hear it from someone else and you're only just speaking to them about it now; that's maybe why they're not ringing the bells for you. However much they may value you, ultimately it's really hard to replace good teachers.

I imagine the loss of a good teacher is first and foremost a disappointment and inconvenience to her, and she hasnt the good grace to put that aside to observe the courtesies. She may also be a 'staff as tools' type, interested in you only in as far as you are a means to achieve her goals, but not as a person.

She already knew you'd been offered the job via your line manager by the sound of it - you waited a week to formally resign, and expect her to drop any meetings she had arranged - or anything else she was dealing with, such as a safeguarding issue - to ask if you'd been successful, when she already knew the outcome.

Just confirm your resignation in an email.

I've worked for a place for 29 yrs. I didn't get much more than that.

Maybe the fact that you've wanted to leave for a while, has something to do with the HT's attitude OP?

I know what you mean - it always feels a bit flat because you are excited but everyone else is just thinking "Oh shit, now we have a long drawn out recruitment process, the risk of a new team member, all the tiresome settling in, and then who knows if they even stay?" It's only natural.

Congratulations though!