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Jones3A · 25/10/2024 18:35

We need a film to watch this evening, me DH and DS. Rare treat as DD8 is out on a sleepover.

My son is 11, he's mature, and he's increasingly keen to watch more adult style films.

He's not easily spooked and not squeamish.

He's seen Shawshank, a few good men, the dark knight, Forrest gump and hacksaw ridge, recently. All with both of us there to talk through the themes and difficult subjects. Some I've slightly regretted after tbh (Shawshank).

DH and I have argued this week because of some of the increasingly adult suggestions of films they're making together, to watch next. I don't mind him watching some stuff that's pushing it a little, but he's only a kid, and there's no rush.

What can we watch tonight that's exciting/challenging enough that he feels it's grown up, without filling his 11yo brain with things he doesn't need to be worrying about yet?

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FloatyBoaty · 25/10/2024 18:57

You’re thinking about it the wrong way round.

A film isn’t “adult” because of the rating. Citizen Kane is a U, but it’s indisputably an “adult” film. Eat Pray Love is a PG, but the themes would fly over most kids heads. Also The Way- a 12, but of absolutely no interest to kids.

Ratings aren’t based on stories but presence of sex, violence, certain language etc. their presence doesn’t “make” a film adult- it just rules out suitability for kids.

amymel2016 · 25/10/2024 18:57

Don’t Worry Darling
Ferris Bullers Day Off
Castaway
Catch me if you can

RechargeableGnu · 25/10/2024 18:57

Not a film but the Merlin BBC series has some older themes, especially re loss.

PastaC · 25/10/2024 18:55

Have u chosen one yet OP!?

Sherrystrull · 25/10/2024 18:55

Night at the museum
Hunger games
Indiana Jones

Roastiesarethebestbit · 25/10/2024 18:53

Shawn of the dead

VictorianScreenTime · 25/10/2024 18:52

The Martian!

TheNextCaroleMiddleton · 25/10/2024 18:51

The Martian or Gravity?

Thommasina · 25/10/2024 18:51

The Way Way Back (it's a comedy drama though but the main character is a 13? year boy.

ExhaustedHousewife · 25/10/2024 18:50

edwinbear · 25/10/2024 18:40

Sixth Sense is good about that age.

I think that's a little too scary for 11.

KnittingKnewbie · 25/10/2024 18:50

The glass onion? That Daniel Craig murder mystery

Zoraflora · 25/10/2024 18:50

What about Billy Elliot, loads of different themes going on.

Zestwood · 25/10/2024 18:49

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CocoapuffPuff · 25/10/2024 18:48

Independence Day. Men in Black.

Might be too dark for an 11yo but Guillermo Del Toro's Pinnocchio is beautiful and very moving.

Davros · 25/10/2024 18:48

Pleasantville
Little Miss Sunshine
Julie and Julia
Midnight in Paris
A Good Year

TiramisuThief · 25/10/2024 18:47

Green book - rewatched recently, bloody love it.

Putthetipin · 25/10/2024 18:46

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Porkchopexpress · 25/10/2024 18:46

Alien

HolyMolyAnne · 25/10/2024 18:46

The Matrix

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 25/10/2024 18:45

Arrival

FloatyBoaty · 25/10/2024 18:45

Twister - there’s a reboot with hot young things just out

FloatyBoaty · 25/10/2024 18:44

If he’s climate anxious not this- bur The Day After Tomorrow is great

PattiLupone12 · 25/10/2024 18:44

Tremors

WitcheryDivine · 25/10/2024 18:44

Something with some women in would be good. I’ll have a think.

Sparklyhat · 25/10/2024 18:43

Has he seen all the marvel stuff? Guardians of the galaxy maybe?