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Please help me find the perfect word to shut down HR

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FromTheBubblegumTree · 25/10/2024 14:06

I have agreed to help HR with their investigation (this is not a place where I work). They are sending me emails with a rude 'you will do what we say and comply with our processes because we are higher than you' tone. They have completely missed the point that I am not one of their employees and am doing them a favour. I owe them nothing.

I am in communication with someone else from the company. I want to say something along the lines of.

I am happy to help HR. I am not happy for HR to bully me.

Bully is too strong. I just want them to wind their neck in!

Please help. (I am rubbish at writing corporate emails)

OP posts:
OhMyGollyGoshGosh · 25/10/2024 14:12

"I am happy to help HR. I am not happy for HR to be so belligerent towards me."

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FromTheBubblegumTree · 25/10/2024 14:12

OhMyGollyGoshGosh · 25/10/2024 14:09

Why bring someone else into it?

You need to tell HR as they're the ones sending the emails.

This is the person that I am doing the favour for and am primarily in communication with. It does make sense in this context to address this person as part of our email trail.

OP posts:
GoingRoundThatBlockAgain · 25/10/2024 14:11

Doingmybest12 · 25/10/2024 14:09

I think they are sending standard messages to say you need to comply with their ways of working while you work for them rather than go off on a tangent or do your own thing. I don't think it means anything more than this.

Spot on.

Does the tone of their emails mean that you will withdraw from the investigation if they don’t show enough gratitude??

Amanitacae · 25/10/2024 14:10

’please reconsider the authoritative tone of these messages to me. I’ve agreed to help with this in my own time, but I refuse to respond to this style of communication’

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SereneFish · 25/10/2024 14:10

Could you paste one of the comments you're talking about?

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 25/10/2024 14:10

You could email saying you were willing to support with the investigation, regardless of your lack of employment status with the company, as a gesture of goodwill, but it seems it will be more onerous and have a greater impact on your own business/productivity than you first thought, so you are reconsidering your involvement.

Abi86 · 25/10/2024 14:10

Harass

Doingmybest12 · 25/10/2024 14:09

I think they are sending standard messages to say you need to comply with their ways of working while you work for them rather than go off on a tangent or do your own thing. I don't think it means anything more than this.

RandomMess · 25/10/2024 14:09

Dictating

OhMyGollyGoshGosh · 25/10/2024 14:09

Why bring someone else into it?

You need to tell HR as they're the ones sending the emails.

Violetparis · 25/10/2024 14:08

Instead of bully you could say 'tell me what to do'.