So, here goes....myself and my sons have lived in the same council house for nearly 10 years. For a significant portion of that time I was on benefits due to their additional needs meaning I couldn't work.
In April this year I was served an eviction notice which kind of was my fault but wasn't....housing benefit cocked up a few times, so the not my fault, but as the judge said when I went to court to stop it the buck ended with me regardless of where the money was coming from.
Anyway, managed to keep my house by entering into an agreement (of my own making) to keep up with rent and clear arrears. At this point I was working full time, and between that and my older boys could service that and have luxuries such as...oh just food lighting and heating.
Anyway circumstances changed and I'm back in a similar position although with significantly lower arrears.
For brevity I have not gone into the finer details, but you can ask anything you like.
My eldest is refusing to pay digs until after the court date although it is almost certain we won't be evicted once I've stated my case. I sort of see his thinking, but I do feel disappointed in him.
So my question is this...
AIBU....he absolutely should look after himself and shouldn't have to be responsible for anyone else
AINBU....although his decision is pragmatic as it stinks of saving himself at the expense of the family (ie I can't pay other bills or do grocery shopping in the meantime so 3 other people suffer the consequences)
Sorry if the format is a bit weird first time posting on this thread