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Lookslikemeemaw · 2024-10-25T10:56:32+00:00

By referring to women as ‘females’?? He’s a personal trainer and talks about ‘the females’ that take some of his classes but he seriously gives me the ick with his ‘ I had 4 females in, all wanting to do weights’ etc. i find him really off putting!

jeaux90 · 25/10/2024 12:47

Female is a biological fact. Do you also squirm when people talk about the sex of their baby for example?

Some people use Male/Man interchangeably, I do that.

herecomesautumn · 25/10/2024 12:40

FrenchandSaunders · 25/10/2024 12:20

Reminds me of Friday Night Dinner 😂

🤣🤣🤣. Said in a "Martin" voice

Fizzballs · 25/10/2024 12:39

Have you told him? I have a friend who used a similarly annoying turn of phrase when I first knew him. After a few times I just said "X you have to stop saying that" and he has.

thestudio · 25/10/2024 12:37

Yes and you'll often see on Mumnset and hear in real life, people talking about a 'white woman', and an 'Asian lady' or a 'black lady'.
Exactly @OhMyGollyGoshGosh - as if it's just about ok to be non-white OR non-male, but both is such a terrible misfortune they can't bring themselves to point it out.

OhMyGollyGoshGosh · 25/10/2024 12:21

thestudio · 25/10/2024 12:18

Second the class explanation - 'my woman' used to be shorthand for 'woman who cleans' or 'woman wot does'. But there is also misogyny there for sure - a woman is assumed to be intrinsically 'less than'.

It's a bit like older people saying 'coloured' instead of 'black', which in the same way betrays the racism of the speaker even as they are trying to be polite. They don't like to say 'black' because in their mind it is an insult - it points out the person's 'natural' low status. It's better to use a euphemism which they perceive as sidestepping the issue.

I find it equally awful and I do correct people.

Yes and you'll often see on Mumnset and hear in real life, people talking about a 'white woman', and an 'Asian lady' or a 'black lady'.

It's strangely irritating, like they're 'othering' them.

FrenchandSaunders · 25/10/2024 12:20

Reminds me of Friday Night Dinner 😂

Michelle12A · 25/10/2024 12:20

It also annoys me when people on here call men males

thestudio · 25/10/2024 12:18

Second the class explanation - 'my woman' used to be shorthand for 'woman who cleans' or 'woman wot does'. But there is also misogyny there for sure - a woman is assumed to be intrinsically 'less than'.

It's a bit like older people saying 'coloured' instead of 'black', which in the same way betrays the racism of the speaker even as they are trying to be polite. They don't like to say 'black' because in their mind it is an insult - it points out the person's 'natural' low status. It's better to use a euphemism which they perceive as sidestepping the issue.

I find it equally awful and I do correct people.

FoldedClothes · 25/10/2024 12:12

Just say ‘Women, Nigel! We’re women!’ every time he says ‘females’. Either he’ll stop or your friend will crack and ensure your paths never cross again.

Some people, not all of them men, seem to really struggle with the word ‘women’. My mother thinks it’s rude, that when you stop referring to someone as a girl, they start being a ‘lady’. For her, ‘woman’ has class connotations.

Cantalever · 25/10/2024 12:08

I absolutely hate this too - and always think Female whats? giraffes? chipmonks? Why don't people (men mostly) just say women? I'd be tempted to put him right, lightly but definitely that there is nothing wrong with the woman word.