Long so apologies, so childs father moved out 6 months ago, our DD is 6. Ex moved into his female cousins home 22 miles away(renting a spare bedroom) she has 3 children of her own, and her brother is also currently living there.
Our daughter is autistic so the set up since him leaving has been he sees her mid week after school until bedtime, and has her Friday overnight until Saturday 3pm. All at my home to keep it easier for DD, when he's there I go to a family or friends. This is all he's willing to do as he's upped his shifts to earn more. Daughter has adjusted better than I anticipated though does still get upset sometimes.
2 weeks after leaving our home ex announced he had a girlfriend from a SE asain country who he would be visiting in November for 3 weeks. He's also told me they plan to marry very soon to get her a spousal visa to move here.
Fast forward to last week he tells me his new GF isn't comfortable with us being under the same roof, him seeing DD at ours. Ex doesn't drive. He's now proposed taking DD from mine on a Friday in a taxi to his room 22 miles away and bringing her back the Saturday. He has said his cousins children are not there weekends as theyre at their fathers. Multiple issues with this, the travelling will be overwhelming for DD, gets travel sick and anxious in cars. She has slept out twice in her life as she struggles in a new environment so sleep will be an issue. Where they live is on a busy road near a city centre, somewhere our DD will not be able to go out for walks. Lastly ex has shown in the last 6 months little interest in our DD when he's with her, he is glued to his phone like a teenager, to the point DD has told me daddy is always on his phone, she craves his attention.
I'm concerned, I've told him my concerns and he simply thinks I'm being awkward on purpose. Absolutely nothing to do with thinking about the effect on our DD apparently. I know legally speaking he's her father & does have the right to take her, but morally..
Am I being unreasonable?