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24/10/2024 17:16
Hi, will be short and sweet about this, but in a nutshell, my half-sister lives abroad in Ireland. Before Covid, we - me, mum, step dad and cousins- were all supposed to go over as a family to visit her. Since that plan, I had my DS, who is now 19 months.
A few months after having DS, I was told by cousin that my mum/step-dad had arranged to go and see my sister, but they hadn't told me about it and I hadn't been invited. I was a bit gutted about this, got upset and told my mum so. To which I was met with a lot of defensiveness about why she hadn't told me. Next thing they had booked and went off on the holiday without speaking about it again. If my mum had just come and said look we'd like you to come but logistically with DS it won't work this time, I'd have been ok about it, but it was just silence.
A few weeks ago, my mum sat down and said I'm just telling you this now before you get upset, we are going away on a Xmas city break with your sister when she is over here. You'll have DS, so you won't really want to/be able to come.
It would have been nice to have been invited so I could make that decision, or for them to have tweaked the city break to make it something I could come to with DS. Or my DP could have had DS while I went. Again, I just felt as though things were arranged without me and also without considering me. When I got upset, my mum just became quickly defensive and sarcastic saying well I'll never go anywhere again with you etc.