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To say that adult friendships aren’t worth the effort?

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MellowSwan · 24/10/2024 15:19

It feels like maintaining adult friendships takes too much work and stress, especially when we all have busy lives. AIBU to think friendships aren’t worth the effort once you hit a certain age?

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HeadNorth · 24/10/2024 15:24

My friends are really important to me - they are worth the effort.

saveforthat · 24/10/2024 15:23

I think life without friends would be unbearable.

Wdththtm · 24/10/2024 15:23

I think it’s harder to make new friends as we get older, but I think we all reach a point where we need friends. Children fly the nest, we retire, partners leave/pass away. If you stop making an effort because you are busy then your older days could be very lonely. People need people I think.

Hydrangea58 · 24/10/2024 15:22

No, it's important to maintain the friendships that you have, no matter how old you are.
I can see that if you work full time and have small children, time will be short, but most people can find at least some time for their friends.

CoCoNoDough · 24/10/2024 15:22

No definitely not, I'd be depressed if I didn't have good friends. We support eachother but I don't have any friends that expect loads of contact.

What's making it so difficult for you? Maybe the issue is the particular friend you are thinking of rather than all friends in general.

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