To be annoyed at my friend for cancelling plans?

In these sorts of cases it feels easier not to make plans which involve buying tickets in advance. I've had a friend to it to me, last minute cancelling of a £50 each event. Offering me her ticket for free which is no use as who am i going to invite with 2 hours notice.

It’s time to focus on more local friends - plans that involve driving with babies end up feeling like hard work if you’ve had a full day / week of work or childcare. Local friends are more reliable and less likely to mess you around as you see them at nursery etc

Have you not read any of the thread?

I would also hate that. Don’t make plans like that with her again - lesson learned!

Why can't you DH and baby go without her? 40 minutes isn't a massive distance.

Only make plans to see her when it suits you, ie it's local to you, and/or an event you'd like to go to anyway, maybe as part of a bigger group if you have mutual friends.
If you previously had a strong friendship, ask her about it and explain the flakiness is upsetting you.

Sell the tickets or give them away - I don’t think you’ll enjoy the evening if you’re feeling annoyed about it!

I wouldn’t reply any further to her. If she contacts you to do something again I would just say “No thanks. I can’t be bothered making fake plans with you that you’ll cancel last minute for a better offer. It’s a waste of my time.”

My cousin does this. We used to meet a lot but she was always letting me down (using "I forgot" as an excuse) that I have just stopped asking her to do anything. She did ask why I never invite her round any more and I said I was fed up of being let down.
Sometimes you just have to take a step back from a friendship

I think you have to be honest as say you know Becky this is the fourth time you’ve cancelled on me and I’m feeling quite upset about it as I thought our friendship was important.

Just so she is aware that she is being a not nice friend rather than just stepping away - as you probably won’t want to make plans in the future if she is constantly cancelling on you

I don’t get why you’d not go? Why don’t you go just the 3 of you? Might be a nice event for you all. I do understand the annoyance of her bailing because something better came along especially if she does that often but I wouldn’t let that stop you going and having a nice time

You are right to be annoyed at her and I would be very unimpressed with her reply. I wouldn't reply to that last message and allow things to cool off. Don't put yourself out to see her again.

But still go to the Halloween thing. You paid for it and you might really enjoy it. Turn it into a date night. 40 minutes isn't that long a journey.

Just no response and wait for her to message about making plans and be "busy" for the next few times.

Just for kicks, I think I'd arrange something free and bail the day before, saying something like "im so sorry, I'm sure this comes across like I'm deliberately cancelling on you after the halloween thing to be a dick but I'm really not! Terrible time to get [the runs/headache/kids running a fever] Lets catch up soon XO"

Then give her a fresh chance and draw a line under it. Dump her if she shows signs of doing it again.

Go and enjoy it. It’s not her responsibility to cover your tickets as much as you feel let down.

Having a friend live over an hour away is always going to be hard to maintain seeing each other.

I don’t know why anyone bothers making plans these days. Nobody sticks to them.

You could send something really simple like:
'oh that's a shame, had only booked as we were going together and it's halfway'

But honestly I just couldn't be bothered having an argument or even a discussion about it. If she cancels often then that's the real problem and probably best to reduce contact and expectations.

Why on earth does she think you need her to make plans for you?

I agree!

If it’s plans that don’t need booking in advance I don’t think it’s so bad to cancel, if it only happens occasionally, but something like this, you don’t flake out except for if you’re genuinely ill or it’s an emergency.

You need to tell her OP. You need to explain that you had no interest in this event except to spend time together, at her suggestion. You have spent money and then she’s decided not to go for no reason but her own choice. I wouldn’t make plans with her again.

She is a selfish person who is using u as an option.
If u don't want to fall out with her then I would do the exact same back to her next few times, show her how it feels. Maybe then she will learn to respect you and will see
What it's like to not have u at her bec and call x

Could you offer the tickets (that she has paid for) to grandparents, friends etc. I assume you paid the same as her given under 2 or 3’s are often free - not that it makes her any less of a dick.

I guess the lesson learnt here is not to agree to doing anything in the future unless you would happily do it without her.
Light shows are often very popular - can you resell your tickets?