Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To think monogamy is outdated?

107 replies

UniqueOrca · 24/10/2024 13:34

In today’s world where we value personal freedom and independence, AIBU to think monogamy is an old-fashioned concept? Is it really realistic to expect one person to fulfil all your needs for life?

OP posts:
Mrsttcno1 · 24/10/2024 13:45

Lentilweaver · 24/10/2024 13:41

But why expect someone to fulfill all your needs? I am monogamous but I go on solo trips, have my own interests, my own friends....

Absolutely this.

Your husband/wife does not need to fulfil ALL of your needs.

Didimum · 24/10/2024 13:45

It's outdated to expect everyone to remain monogamous, that doesn't mean monogamy is an outdated concept. If you expect one person to fulfil all your needs for life then you're doing monogamy wrong.

Cosycover · 24/10/2024 13:43

It's one of the stupidest rules we have made up along the way imo.

Lentilweaver · 24/10/2024 13:41

But why expect someone to fulfill all your needs? I am monogamous but I go on solo trips, have my own interests, my own friends....

Lentilweaver · 24/10/2024 13:40

I suppose it is, but like capitalism, I haven't found an alternate system that works. People who have given up on monogamy seem no happier than me.

Clueless2024 · 24/10/2024 13:39

Its always been outdated. It's just we've been conditioned to accept it as the "norm".

randomchap · 24/10/2024 13:38

It works for some people, not others.

Like most things, it's not black and white.