Partner's friends all hate me and to end relationship?

He sounds like a complete arsehole! You and your son deserve much better. Given his attitude and threats to run away with your baby, you need to contact the police and get a solicitor imo. Good luck and keep your chin up ❤

'I have to tolerate this on a daily basis'
No you don't, you don't need to put up with any of this, tell him it's over and he's free to go to one of the women who would love to have sex with him. End it now before your little one is old enough to understand what is going on.

cuckoo-ing is coming to mind. Be rid of him and all the dodgy people who suddenly want to impose on your and your child’s home.

So sorry OP, that’s not the life you want. Definitely get some help from women’s aid or similar, seek some legal advice also. Change locks when he is out and don’t let him back in, refer him to your solicitor for contact. He sounds like a real fucking loser as do his cousin and friends. Don’t waste your life trying to polish shit, you won’t make it shine.

If you haven't done so already, speak to a solicitor who specialises in divorce ASAP, and definitely before making the break.

Can't you get your toddler to sleep and then go out and your parents could babysit? Presumably if it's your 30th they aren't much older than 60-mid 70's and if the child is asleep there hopefully won't be too much to do?

I’m going to go out on a possibly judgemental limb here and say he doesn’t work, or if he does it’s something casual like labouring. You’re better off without him.

Honestly I know this is all you’ve known but no mature 42 year old smokes weed, goes clubbing and expects sex on demand.

You sound quite vulnerable OP. Please look for help from a friend or maybe a women’s charity who can help you end things safely and move on to find a man who has grown up already.

No, I've already said that I'm not interested in continuing the conversation and have ignored further tags from BobbyBiscuits. But thanks for tagging me again to keep the derailing going.

@Edingril I've apologised for accidentally derailing this thread to be about the pros and cons of cannabis. So you should do the same.

Thanks @BobbyBiscuits

@cariadlet fully appreciate that. It wasn't my intention at all and I apologise.

@BobbyBiscuits and @yeaitsmeagain Is it worth starting your own thread to discuss the harms or benefits of cannabis so that the OP's thread isn't completely derailed if she decides to come back and look for support or advice?

@BobbyBiscuits and @yeaitsmeagain Is it worth starting your own thread to discuss the harms or benefits of cannabis so that the OP's thread isn't completely derailed if she decides to come back and look for support or advice?

@yeaitsmeagain thank you. I'm glad you have not wasted any further time on the subject.

You're totally right, every time I stop taking ibuprofen I have a headache again so I have to take it every 4 hours my whole life. And don't get me started on my regenerating broken leg. You do realise antidepressants and many other medications are supposed to be taken short term, which is why people end up having to switch medications and why they stop working for them. You need to treat the root cause of the problem, masking with medication is a short term coping mechanism.

Addicts like you will always defend their addictions over anything else, I'm not wasting my time on it.

And can barely string two words together

@yeaitsmeagain I'll let you know when either me or anyone else I know who uses medicinal cannabis start suffering from brain damage/brain disease.
And if someone were to take antidepressants and then stop, then they'd be depressed again. If someone stops taking pain relief, they'll be in pain again.

It is, it causes all those to be exacerbated in the long run, as I already mentioned.

It's like saying if I knock you unconscious you won't be depressed any more, but when you're conscious again you will be, so I'll knock you unconscious again to stop your depression again. And I've alleviated your depression, so good job me. Never mind that over time you'll have some kind of brain damage or brain disease, because you've kept the depression at bay, right :/

@yeaitsmeagain I'm sorry to hear about your friend. I know lots of people who use cannabis to alleviate anxiety, depression, anorexia, insomnia, nausea, arthritis symptoms, PTSD symptoms, personality disorder symptoms.
It's not all bad you know!

You can believe what you like, science is fact.

I'm friends with someone who did the same but started at 13 and his memory was shot to shirt from it too by his late 20s.

It doesn't help mental health issues, it just makes them come back worse once the effect of the drug has worn off, to compel people to take it again. It's the same way that alcohol makes depression worse but makes people feel better under the effects which is why they drink it.

It's terrible for anyone to smoke cannabis, but even worse for young people. Smoking anything at all is bad for you, period.

It's not about maturity, it's about addiction. He is addicted. Addiction trumps literally everything else in the world.

He badmouths you to his friends
Doesn't introduce you to them or include you in holidays etc
They all have similar interests like smoking marijuana, grime music, festivals etc.
He goes out frequently, leaving you to look after the baby
Verbally abuses you
Has nasty outbursts
Berates you sexually, compares you to other women and claims other women want to have sex with him
Etc

Jesus OP - please wake up! Get rid!
Draw up whatever needs to be done legally relating to the child, then only deal with this awful man in relation to the child, nothing more. He is toxic, I hope you can see that. Please look at the Freedom Programme to know what a decent partner is like. Good luck OP!

Hope you’ve managed to call women’s aid and also log everything with 101. Make sure it’s all on record including him threatening to kidnap your child!
Hope you’re ok xx

I'm so confused why you would want a weed smoking, argumentive and abusive man around your child. Especially if all his friends are like this? Why would you want a more formal childcare arrangement, would you actually trust your child going to his flat etc. with his kates in there getting drunk and smoking it's not something I'd want my child around

Why did you have a baby with this man? It sounds like he has treated you terribly for years yet you have put up with it and got even more involved by having a child so you can never make a clean break.

Where does his income derive from? There is no mention here of any kind of job or career, and yet he seems to have plenty of money to buy a drugs which are rather expensive and have all these holidays abroad.

Having said that you are in an abusive relationship and you must get out immediately.