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Landlord turned nasty

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LavenderLuxe · 24/10/2024 08:25

We have been in talks to buy our rented house from our landlord for years,
Finally at the end of August the landlord was all for it, we said we would get a solicitor and start the process, however after 9 days she sent us a nasty text saying everything should have been done by now, by everything she meant moneyy paid, surveys done, all checks done and basically all bought and sold job done, she absolutely lost it over the October budget rumours (she is an older lady) no disrespect of course, but she clearly lost her temper at us, and then said she needed to talk to her family, then we got a letter to say she is now not selling to us yet again, and increasing our rent by 15% surely she can't do this? We wrote back explaining that houses on our street haven't sold, are in better condition and this would be a quick easy sale, we reminded her of a list of outstanding jobs that she then came back and said "we didn't tell her" we did and I have proof of her saying she couldn't afford it. We have a young child, and I know people will say to move but we have looked and looked, we have great neighbours, it's a great location for work ect, we have been here 6 years and it just feels like home. I'm absolutely gutted, we worked our arses off to get the deposit, which she knew and now she's stopped it, we are 36 and 44 so we really are desperate to get on the ladder and expand our family before time runs out. Not sure what I'm looking for here, just feeling lost and gutted and have no support

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TotteringonGently · 24/10/2024 08:55

I assume she's worried about the rumoured rise in CGT for second and BTL homes? The Chancellor has said that isn't happening, can you make that clear to her?

FusilliGerri · 24/10/2024 08:52

You can't make her sell it. You've saved the money and that's what matters.

MoodEnhancer · 24/10/2024 08:47

Can you afford one of the other houses on the street? If they have been for sale for a while, you might be able to get them for less than the price they are on for. I know it’s a pain but you have to move anyway if she’s put the rent up and is being an arse. Definitely worth having a look at them.

GreenSedan · 24/10/2024 08:45

Why dont you just buy one of the other houses in your street for sale that are in better condition?

Candaceowens · 24/10/2024 08:44

If there are houses on your street that haven't sold, why can't you buy one of them instead?

Swissrollover · 24/10/2024 08:42

How far had you progressed in the 9 days, considering that this has been discussed for years?

Did you have a Mortgage in Principle, book a survey (if you intend to get one), instruct a solicitor? Had she instructed her solicitor and completed her side of the paperwork?

Your landlord sounds very unreasonable, but if she knew all the wheels were truly in motion on your side she might have been more accommodating.

Do you want to try to salvage the purchase?

Motnight · 24/10/2024 08:31

I agree - you need to find somewhere else to buy.

We actually bought our first flat off our landlord, but he was extremely reasonable at all points in the process.

Newbutoldfather · 24/10/2024 08:30

You are being unreasonable in your belief that you can make your landlady sensible and reasonable. You can’t.

I had a very similar experience to you. I rented a house for a year after my divorce and the landlord promised to sell it to me at market value, I then got a valuation and he decided he wanted £100k more.

When I said nothing doing, he gave me a month’s notice to move out.

Ultimately, to become master of your own destiny, you need to start house hunting and not let yourself be controlled by your landlady.

MissUltraViolet · 24/10/2024 08:30

If you have saved up for a deposit then arrange to view the other houses in better condition for sale on the street?

Keep saving hard and keep looking for something else.

BabyCloud · 24/10/2024 08:29

Walk away and buy somewhere else.

spottedinthewilds · 24/10/2024 08:26

Can you get together and speak face to face?

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