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WIBU to ask for a different prize?

33 replies

Allelbowsandtoes · 24/10/2024 08:10

Hi
Just asking so I don't make a massive faux pas, basically 😬
An acquaintance of mine (known him for years, lovely bloke) is a silversmith, he did a prize giveaway on his social media and I won first prize. The necklace I won is the most expensive one out of all of the ones in the prize draw, one of his new designs.
It's a stunning piece of jewellery but really not my style and I can't see myself wearing it.
I'd really love to swap it for a different necklace he makes which he sells on his website so I happen to know it sells for half the price of the one I won. The one I like is smaller, less intricate design.
Is that really rude? I'd hate to offended him because he's an incredibly talented artist and the piece I won clearly took a lot of skil to make, but it's not quite me.

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growinguptobreakingdown · 24/10/2024 08:23

I think it's fine.He gets to give away a cheaper necklace and still sell the more expensive one you give back.Its not rude as you clearly love the other design.

murmuration · 24/10/2024 08:20

if you’re not going to actually wear it, it’s not going to be the advertisement that he needs when people see you wearing it and ask where you got it. Therefore, I think it would be fine to ask if it was possible to swap for the cheaper item that you would wear.

Allelbowsandtoes · 24/10/2024 08:17

Snorlaxo · 24/10/2024 08:15

Is second prize more appealing ? I’d ask if he could make second prize winner first prize and you first prize. As he’s a small business, he may prefer to supply 2x second prizes.

Thanks, yeah when I realised the one I like is half the price of the one I won, it felt like it would save him money too!

Perhaps I'll sell the one I got subtly and then buy two things from him 🤣

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Ozanj · 24/10/2024 08:17

I agree that you should keep this necklace and buy the one you really like.

Allelbowsandtoes · 24/10/2024 08:15

BabyCloud · 24/10/2024 08:13

He clearly picked that one to showcase his new design.

Why don’t you support his business and buy the one you want?

Third prize was one of the necklaces I liked, so that wasn't the only prize iyswim!
Totally take that on board though, sadly I can't afford to buy new jewellery right now hence my asking.
I have bought some lovely stuff from him in the past when I had a bit more disposable income

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Snorlaxo · 24/10/2024 08:15

Is second prize more appealing ? I’d ask if he could make second prize winner first prize and you first prize. As he’s a small business, he may prefer to supply 2x second prizes.

vincettenoir · 24/10/2024 08:14

I don’t think he will mind. He has had the promo from the prize draw and will still have the more intricate piece to sell.

I don’t think it’s rude to ask in the circs.

BabyCloud · 24/10/2024 08:13

He clearly picked that one to showcase his new design.

Why don’t you support his business and buy the one you want?