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Do all men cheat?

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yungnluv · 23/10/2024 18:17

I found out my boyfriend of 6 years cheated on me a year ago and I genuinely mean this wholeheartedly it's the last thing in the world I thought he'd ever do to me. He was mad about me, adored the ground I walked on, showed he loved me everyday, he talked about marrying me every single day and starting a family. Talked about growing grey and old together. He would cry because he loved me so much. Would regularly bring me flowers , plan date nights and he genuinely made me feel like the most loved girl in the world the whole 6 years.

When I found out, shocked wasn't even the word.

And I'm sure there's women out there now who would say "my husband would never ever do that to me" and this is scary because I said the exact same thing.

It's an awful question but do most men cheat? Why do they cheat? Have you been cheated on before?

Disgusting. Ruins life's and family's. 💔

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FasterMichelin · 23/10/2024 18:40

Ibloodylovetea · 23/10/2024 18:22

No they don't.

I've been married 3 times. 1st DH cheated. No 2 was too lazy to bother. DH3 my lovely & forever DH would NEVER cheat. His 1st wife cheated twice & he divorced her on 2nd cheating. His late DW never cheated, but, unfortunately died with dementia aged 63. I know in my soul that my DH would NEVER cheat on me - it's not in his DNA.

Cheating isn't a genetic condition and people change. No one can say their partner wouldn't cheat.

DeeCeeCherry · 23/10/2024 18:38

No, not all men cheat. But I reckon 99% would if there was absolutely zero chance of getting caught.

user9578 · 23/10/2024 18:37

Nah, of course they don't.

I had an affair, but not all women cheat either.

My ex-husband to the best of my knowledge (who can ever be sure) never cheated on me or any other previous partners.

SophiaJ8 · 23/10/2024 18:37

Based on 20 years working in massive offices… you can never predict who will cheat. The flirty ones are the ones who cheat less. The old adage of always the quiet ones - that’s certainly true in investment banking.

Availability is a massive factor. The long working hours means they can effectively have daytime affairs as they’re only home for 6 hours a day

You only have to look at the list of who comes in on what days since the advent of flexible working…

KrisAkabusi · 23/10/2024 18:35

5128gap · 23/10/2024 18:31

More than a few men go their entire life without the slightest opportunity to cheat, attractive to no one but their partners (if they're lucky) so no, not all will cheat because for many the chance would be a fine thing.

The only reason some men don't cheat is because they're too ugly?! Even for MN, that's cynical!

5128gap · 23/10/2024 18:31

More than a few men go their entire life without the slightest opportunity to cheat, attractive to no one but their partners (if they're lucky) so no, not all will cheat because for many the chance would be a fine thing.

KrisAkabusi · 23/10/2024 18:30

No. Same as women. Some do, some don't.

nutbrownhare15 · 23/10/2024 18:27

I'm sorry that happened. I don't think the level of infatuation you are describing in terms of his behaviour is normal. It sounds like he was addicted to limerance which is the honeymoon phase of the relationship. And that is what you also get with an affair. My DH - I don't think he would ever cheat. I can never say never as I do wonder if he'd be tempted. But he certainly hasn't cheated in the last 15 years.

Smartiepants79 · 23/10/2024 18:26

I don’t believe so.
I can only base that on the trust I have in the men around me.

EveryOtherNameTaken · 23/10/2024 18:26

No they don't but you really can't assume which ones won't.

Ibloodylovetea · 23/10/2024 18:22

No they don't.

I've been married 3 times. 1st DH cheated. No 2 was too lazy to bother. DH3 my lovely & forever DH would NEVER cheat. His 1st wife cheated twice & he divorced her on 2nd cheating. His late DW never cheated, but, unfortunately died with dementia aged 63. I know in my soul that my DH would NEVER cheat on me - it's not in his DNA.