Do all men cheat?

As others have said, not all men cheat, but more cheat than you’d like to think, and no, you can’t predict the ones that will. The one’s I know who have cheated range from the ‘yeah, not surprised by that’ ones, to the ‘wow, I’d never have guessed, he’s one of the good guys. Devoted his time to good works in the community and absolutely adored his wife’

I don't think ALL men cheat,but a very high percentage of them do, given the opportunity. I don't think you can ever say with 100% certainty that a man would never cheat. When I married my exH many years ago,he was devoted to me and I honestly thought that he would never be unfaithful. But 10 years later,he did just that.

I think it's just short term thinking. Someone attractive fancying you is exciting, the rush is exciting. If you're very romantic you'll believe you've fallen in love... I think you have to be quite smart/have a lot of self control to not have an affair when the opportunity presents tbh

Some do some don't I have had around a quarter of my relationships where he has cheated in some way. One a serial cheat, the others more of a quick fumble early on in the relationship before anything got serious.

I've had 2 men chase me when they swore blind they were not in another relationship. I turned both down because I suspected they were trying to cheat, didn't stop them moving onto someone else directly after. They want me they have to be single.

Cheaters sometimes surprise themselves as they too never thought they would.

As lovely as it is to think men and women who are partnered and have an open window to cheat, sitting there weighing up their chances of getting caught, they aren't the are only thinking about what they are doing at that moment.

I know 3 men that had work romances.
Kissing colleagues at Christmas parties, in cupboards, flirty language at work.
They're all still with their dw's.
Whether or not the dw's ever found out I don't know.
This was 20 years ago and I think the fact sm was in its infancy and no whatsapp probably prevented it from being discovered and/or going further.
I can remember commenting on two colleagues snogging all night at a work party. Both had dp's and young dc.
I was told by another colleague (who didnt do this himself) it's just a bit of fun.

No, but many do and more would if they had the opportunity or thought they could get away with it. That's not cynical, it's an understanding of human nature. It's why even in a loving committed relationship everyone should set their affairs up so they can cope with walking away if need be.

The same is true for women but IMO women hide it better or may choose not to because of complex social conditioning reasons.

Where people go wrong is assuming that if they have a happy marriage they'll never be tempted. That's so unrealistic and is the reason so many people convince themselves their spouse isn't fulfilling them and start nit picking. Truth is most are just seeking the kind of excitement and validation that only really comes in the initial stages of a sexual/romantic union when real life and responsibility hasn't yet invaded the fantasy.

Once you accept that most affairs are about how they make you feel and that you will find other people attractive, you realise there is a lot you can do to avoid them. No affair happens instantly. There are lots of little moves/decisions which lead up to them and awareness of this means you can avoid them.

I've nearly cheated but no, my DH hasn't. I've been shocked by how many married men have tried to cheat with me and act like they adore their partners - their partners have no idea

If all men cheat then all women cheat. Unless the only men that cheat are homosexual.

I have recently realised that my ex proposed to me the day after cheating. Think that was probably a guilty conscience and it was a way that made him feel better about it. He cheated all the way through our relationship.

I never ever thought my EH would cheat, everyone said we had the ideal marriage and I actually thought we did too. He knew all my vulnerabilities and became the very person I was afraid of. I never ever thought he would do this to me. Very nearly broke me at the time, totally unforgivable entitled selfish behaviour. We're divorced now but I'll never completely trust any man again.

I don't think all men cheat, but the older and more cynical (or worldly) I get makes me think that a lot more men cheat that I initially thought.

My DH had an affair and I never, ever thought he would - just didn't seem the type. I keep an open mind these days.

No.

I think anyone can cheat. If you think your partner won’t then that’s naive. You’ll never fully know anyone.

Do all men cheat though? Obviously not. Majority do. I worked in a team of 20ish and there were 6 men and I know at least 4 of them had cheated on their partners.

Well it can hardly be just a man problem can it? Unless there are huge male orgies going on all over the place.

I'm sorry for what happened OP but please don't lose your faith. There are and always will be some good people out there.

No.

Maybe I've just gone out with crappy men, but I've been single a long time.

But, in my experience yes, time and opportunity. XH cheated, that was utterly devastating because i would have honestly bet my life he wouldnt. One before that swapped number with a girl he met (no doubt would have gone further had I not accidentally found out) and the one before that went running off to "emotionally support" an Ex after she broke up with her bf.

There are some men ive met that I would say theyd said never cheat, but I'd of put my XH in that group as well, soooooo I'm somewhat cynical

To be fair I don't think the behaviour you've described is normal in a relationship.. feeling guilty perhaps?

I didn't say it was the only reason. The OP asked if they all cheat, I'm just saying no and giving one good reason for it. I'm sure there may be other reasons, but none that carry the same level of certainty!

I agree. Crying because you love someone so much isn’t normal. Long term relationships aren’t all roses and excitement and it sounds like he expected it to be.

I don’t think for a second that all men cheat. I don’t think my dh would cheat. That doesn’t mean he won’t but I trust him not to.

I don't think that would be the case at all.

My husband cheated and like you I never thought he would. I was just so so shocked. My friends and family are shocked because it was so out of character. I honestly never thought he was the type to cheat.

The worst part is that when we met I had huge trust issues due to past bad experiences with men. He built up that trust over the years and let me trust him. He was my safe person. Then he cheated. It’s blown my world apart. I feel so deceived. It’s like a weight in my chest that doesn’t ever go.

I think more people would cheat if they knew they could 100% get away with it. Never assume you’re safe.