Do all men cheat?

I disagree. I think it’s quite sad.

Every body has the capability to cheat and many make the choice to do so but not all. It's just impossible to tell exactly which ones won't

Indeed. Not an altogether bad thing in my opinion.

You very rarely hear of 50/60 year marriages any more. Between people not bothering with marriage at all, divorcing at the first hurdle and marrying later, the diamond wedding anniversary will soon be obsolete. My parents were married for 64 years and I’m as certain as I can be that there was no infidelity.

I’d say it’s a bigger problem than that. If a large number of women believe their husbands are incapable of cheating on them and a large number of men are capable of cheating there is a bit of an expectation gap.

But I don’t think life long monogamy is right for the majority of people. It’s suits some for life and a much larger group for a season but I think our expectation that most people will remain happy and sexually faithful for 50-60 years is wildly unrealistic.

My ex cheated on me he was messaging her while i was on holiday in June we was together 7yrs i had a gut feeling something was up as was being very precious about his phone and he was acting a bit different! Weird thing is when i look back i was the one being accused or if anyone was going to do it he said it would be me !
I would never of cheated on him at all
I personally think most men will cheat some go out and look others i think if opportunity rises yes even if its a snog and fumble !

It’s only a problem if you’re in a relationship with one.

No, but enough of them do so that it's a problem.

When I think about it I probably know more women than men that have had affairs but that could just be because the men are keeping quiet about them. However the 2 most promiscuous people I know that seem to cheat in all their relationships are both gay men.

Not everyone fits behaviour patterns, no. But being patterns they can give us some indication of risk, so can be useful from that perspective.
I think its fair to say that the average heterosexual woman will recieve more offers of sex than the average heterosexual man. I also think its correct to say that the average heterosexual man will have made more approaches to instigate sex than the average heterosexual woman.
From this we can extrapolate that the risk of a woman going out on the town having the opportunity to take up an offer of sex would be higher than for her male counterpart. Equally the chances of a man making an approach for sex will be higher than of a woman doing the same. Obviously this doesn't mean all men will be chasing affairs while all women will be fending off a queue, but if we're talking of risk and likelihood in a general way, behaviour patterns are relevant.

This is true. In some respects close emotional intimacy with someone else without sex can be more hurtful than sex without emotion.

I don’t think I could forgive either to be honest. I don’t see the point of forgiving someone this. No one is so great that accepting the fact they have deceived you is better than being alone.

My dh is a pilot. I’ve received funny comments insinuating I must be brave being with someone with so many opportunities to cheat.

The thing is Dh is reserved, geeky and would much prefer being at home with the dogs. He’s had 3 girlfriends in his whole life. And is on the more introverted and anti social side. I have to beg him to go to the pub with mates.

If dh cheated I would be EXTREMELY shocked.

As a man, posting anonymously: no, we don't all cheat. Don't accept it, it's not something that just goes with masculinity.

Both. Women also cheat of course but in my experience, less. I think that most of the time when women cheat, it’s because of an unmet need and because they’re unhappy in their main relationship. I’ve found that men will cheat on a woman they have no intention of leaving just because the opportunity is available to them. I think women are less that way inclined.

So op did your father, brother, uncles, cousins etc. Has every one of them cheated?

That’s so true. For me cheating is having sex with someone else. Some of the definitions here amuse me.

Different people class different things as cheating though. Some people are comfortable with their partner having good friends of the opposite sex. Others consider that an emotional affair and cheating. Some would be happy for their partner to dance with someone others would ltb. So you may class someone as cheating but their partner doesn't consider it cheating.

IME, which has been good, lots of men don't cheat. More than that, they take pride in their fidelity. My DF, who died a couple of years back after 67 years of marriage, made it clear that my DM was everything to him. My late DH used to call me "girl of his dreams" and he meant it. I think i must've looked for a man as devoted as my dad.

The older I get the more I appreciate the privilege of a strong, stable family

It's well known that men talk up their sex life and women do the opposite. So statistics are unreliable. They only tell us how many men and women admit to cheating, not how many actually cheat. Men are much more likely to admit to cheating, even in an anonymous survey, then women.

In answer to the OP, no, not all men cheat. Many do, and many would do so if the opportunity arose and they thought they could get away with it. But so would many women. And there's no way of knowing if your partner would be able to resist temptation or not. Everyone is capable of cheating.

Using escorts is definitely cheating in my book

Yes, I can't really imagine a situation where I'd know how seriously DH takes his vows. I mean, I know from what I know of his actions that he appears to, but if he was to start telling me how important they are to him, I'd see that as something of a red flag!

I’ve just found out this week my late husband was cheating for the last 3 years of our marriage. I never thought he would do this and he even said he would never jeopardise his family for that but he still did as he had opportunities whilst working away and took them. I never suspected a thing and he was very much a devoted family man. I would never have found out if he hadn’t died suddenly and then I discovered the messages on his phone. Before I was married my previous boyfriend also cheated. I would find it hard to trust again and to trust my own judgment of someone as it seems from the responses on this thread to be quite common