Do all men cheat?

My husband can't lie to save his life...every little thing he does I know about, even attempts at a nice surprise present or bunch of flowers. He's also not the cheating type. I know I sound naive saying that but after 25 years I think I know best

No all men dont cheat. My father did, which many were shocked about at the time. It is true you can't 100% predict.

But the last thing in the world I expect is DH to cheat. He is extremely socially awkward, spends all his time at home, doesn't have many friends etc

There is no inclination or frankly opportunity.

When it comes to sex there are significant differences in the behaviour of the sexes. How many men have you known that complain that women on dating sites are only after sex and keep sending unsolicited pictures of their genitals? What is the comparison between the number of women who have recieved unwanted sexual attention compared with men? Who've been sexually assaulted? How many of your sons have been leered at or catcalled in their school uniforms by women? Are there many middle aged women leaving their husband and children and marrying the young lad in the office? Mail order husbands? A huge sex industry aimed at women who want to pay to watch male strippers and have sex with prostitutes?
Yet when we discuss one form of sexual behaviour, the extra marital kind, suddenly we are pretending that men and women are EXACTLY THE SAME!!

Honestly?

The only man I have know not to cheat is my brother. My dad did, my grandad, uncles, friends, close neighbours and my EXdh.

It's made me look at them differently, I don't trust them at all. Especially after I became single and was incredibly fragile and heartbroken but that didn't stop married men coming onto me.

I will never live with a man or get close enough for him to destroy me like that again.

Sorry this happened to you. Some men will cheat some won’t - same can be said for women too

I would NEVER say my husband would never do that on me because I don't ever know that for sure ! I've a good idea he wouldn't.

I'm with him 18 years and am 98% sure he never has and probably never will but I'd never say he would NEVER do that on me as u never know what unusual situation may present itself

Most of the cheating men I've known of (and there are a lot) have been cheating with single women. Not all, but most.

In my experience in an affair, usually one of the parties is single

I'm a firm believer that many people cheat because the opportunity presents itself. Modern life has more of those opportunities. People who are protective of their marriages and want to stay faithful to their partners avoid opportunities that could lead to cheating.

Some people are more likely to cheat, due to many factors, so those people need to be honest with themselves, work on themselves and be hyper vigilant in staying away from temptation.

This is interesting:

https://discreetinvestigations.ca/infidelity-statistics-who-cheats-more-men-or-women/#:~:text=According%20to%20the%20General%20Social,their%20partner%20while%20still%20married.

20% of men and 13% of women admit to cheating. If true, women are less likely to cheat, but if they do, with more than one man.

I would say it's pretty evenly split between men and women.

He would cry because he loved me so much

Thats’s just strange behaviour.

No, of course not, but I agree it can feel like it when you've been treated that way by someone you thought was different,or multiple partners.
I was cheated on various times when younger, including by 2 longer term (2yrs each) partners.
Looking back they were idiots, but they could lay it on thick with the compliments, gifts, wooing me in various ways.....it's easy to think all that is genuine but actually too much of this in certain circumstances can also be a real red flag and actually signal them trying to make themselves feel less guilty and you less suspicious!

My DH has always been very devoted and doting, but not in an OTT, I've got something to prove sort of way.
Whilst I struggled alot with insecurities at the start of the relationship, I have no doubt whatsoever now that he is faithful, and when I used to at the start I would make myself feel better by thinking that not all girls cheat (I'm one of them) so I can't go round assuming all men will cheat either....although I get there is definitely a higher statistic there!

The chances in the future might be better. I saw this great graph on twitter recently, and it shows that divorce rates for marriages since 1995 have been falling - possibly because fewer people are getting married, and so are more likely to stay married.

The other thing the graph shows is that the rate of divorce really does decline as the length of the marriage increases. So it does suggest that failure isn't inevitable, and that your marriage is more likely to last the longer it's already lasted - which should be obvious, but is contrary to the opinion that it's an unnatural state.

I don’t think so. My DH hasn’t, to my knowledge. My close friend used to tell me when we were much youngrr that most men do/will cheat, even though she’s been in a happy marriage for as long as I have. No cheating from her DH either. 🤷🏻‍♀️

It's a choice isn't it? All the time it is a choice. For men and for women.

A lot of the time lots of people make bad choices, and you see that with all sorts of things, not just with betraying trust in a relationship by cheating.

But lots of people make the right choices too.

Today I made some good choices. And the big bar of Cadbury's caramel was a bad choice.

Every day I make the right choice to recommit myself to my OH. And I hope I will continue to do so.

Never thought mine would. And it turned out he was a serial cheat leading a double life. He seemed to compartmentalise his life at work away from home and his home life.

Isn't it up to women to use their brains?

I think lots of people have the potential to.
tbh the way you describe your partner being so over the top loving towards you - I would think he is someone led by his feelings and emotions (and what’s between his legs) and think men like that are more high risk for cheating and getting carried away, rather than the more dependable ones who might be less exciting in the early stages but more mature and led by morals rather than feelings.

Mine did. Spent half our lives together. Clearly meant nothing to him. Honestly thought he'd never do such a thing. Guess you never really know.....

If a large number of women believe their husbands are incapable of cheating on them and a large number of men are capable of cheating there is a bit of an expectation gap.

Everyone is capable of cheating.

And everyone is capable of being faithful.

It’s usually sad when a previously cherished marriage fails, particularly when children are involved.

Bur the reason marriage rates have declined in part reflects the fact that being married was pretty much obligatory until about 40 years ago. A lot of people did it because it waa expected of them rather than because they really wanted to.

Marriage also increasingly makes less financial sense for women these days so it isn’t the goal it was back then.

So overall it’s neutral rather than a negative.