Do all men cheat?

Have you any evidence for your claim or is it just a cliche you're repeating?

Yes, my research papers are in the post. You should receive it next week.

Usually single much younger females

Your average middle aged married man is not at all attractive to "single much younger females". What exactly is an unattached young woman getting from an affair with such a man?

Have you any evidence for your claim or is it just a cliche you're repeating?

Re: man "controlling themselves" - I think for a lot of men the urge is too much to handle. Lots of them literally slaves to their cocks.

Sorry, no. You're just making excuses for male infidelity. 'Urges' can always be controlled if the will is there. And as I said, you have to go through quite a few steps before doing the deed, so it's not like it's just giving in to a momentary impulse.

In addition, a lot of males grow up with a massive sense of entitlement and expect to have whatever they want without any consequence.

That I agree with.

So who are these (straight) men having all these causal affairs with? - Usually single much younger females, like, doh. I probably should have specified "married women" in my first senesce.

Re: man "controlling themselves" - I think for a lot of men the urge is too much to handle. Lots of them literally slaves to their cocks. In addition, a lot of males grow up with a massive sense of entitlement and expect to have whatever they want without any consequence.

Yes, and the social taboo would have been particularly strong for women, who initiate the majority of divorces.

This.

My ex-inlaws hated each other but still stayed married for 55+ years. Everyone on the outside thought they had a great marriage. In reality, he had an affair 20 years into their marriage, and got them into £20k worth of debt which MIL spent thirty years paying off.

Now, nobody would put up with that would they?

That's because divorce is less taboo and people don't stay in abusive or unhappy marriages anywhere near as much as the 'olden days' .

A husband cheating was often seen as him not being looked after well enough at home, and not spoken about. Certainly not a reason for divorce.

’He would cry because he loved me so much’ That’s … unusual.

But to answer your question, of course not. Also, some women cheat too. You just can never know really if someone could cheat. Sometimes temptation is very difficult to resist.

No

This is where my life is right now too. I'm so sorry you are living it too.

I know women have affairs, too - but not on this scale, and not as causally as man usually do it.

So who are these (straight) men having all these causal affairs with?

I think its something to do with their testosterone, tbh, and it seems like its something they find hard to control.

Ugh.

There are usually quite a few steps between seeing an available person who is not your wife, and ending up naked in bed with them. Men can 'control' themselves at any point along the way. It's just that some of them choose not.

No.

I know women have affairs, too - but not on this scale, and not as causally as man usually do it.

I think the issue here is most man only go by who they "would do" - and its usually A LOT of people, because they hardly ever take anything other than sexual attraction into consideration - and sometimes not even that!

I also have the impression that women, as a rule, stop looking at men around them as potential partners once they pair up and happy - their "rowing eye" is sort of switched off/ dimmed so very often they would miss when someone shows interest or they would project vibes of not being interested or available.

Men, on the other hand, never stop and they are constantly checking out other females around them, consciously or subconsciously looking for an opportunity or a sign of interest - and most act as soon as they see their chance. I think its something to do with their testosterone, tbh, and it seems like its something they find hard to control.

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I actually think it’s more about opportunity in a lot of cases. I think most people would say “I would never cheat” ….. until they do because the opportunity has arisen.

I think the number of people actively going out of their way to find sex outside a relationship are actually probably very low.

How despicable! Men (many not all perhaps) just have this ability to compartmentalise. I've known the most unlikeliest suspects cheat. The nice ones, whose spouse believes 'would never do it'.

I really lost my faith in men when one of my male friends was completely heartbroken over his wife leaving him for another man - he was almost suicidal, cried, and everyone was talking how much he loved her and adored her. He seemed lovely, meek, quiet and decent. Like, the perfect family man. Everyone supported him.

Later, I found out he had a new GF - when I asked another friend where he met her (as he was not going out much and basically not socialising), it transpired they had an affair when he was married. She was someone from his squash class. But it went nowhere as he loved his ex wife so much.... FFS

"Do all women cheat?" Nobody asks that question when there are plenty of women that cheat too. Who do you think these men are cheating with? It's not always single women!

'More than a few men go their entire life without the slightest opportunity to cheat, attractive to no one but their partners (if they're lucky) so no, not all will cheat because for many the chance would be a fine thing.'

Totally agree. Sadly, given the opportunity and if they believe they can get away with it I'd guess many would. Throw in extra dynamics like sexless relationships and separate bedrooms and the 'many' would then become most.

Not all men cheat imo

My feelings exactly. A lot of women think there's a "type" (wearing sports jackets and driving open top cars no doubt) but there really isn't. I'm not saying most men would have an affair but I do think the vast majority would drop their trousers on the sly if they thought they'd get away with it - whether happily married or not.

I believe anyone can cheat given the right circumstances.

No not all men will cheat but everyone and anyone has the capacity to. It’s foolish to believe 100% that someone “never would”. I don’t think I will, I don’t think my partner will, we trust each other, but who knows? Neither of us are planning to as far as I’m aware but it’s not unheard of for anyone to do something out of character.

No, I’ve been married twice, over 50 years, and I don’t think (am really sure), that neither cheated. 🤷‍♀️

Yes, that was my experience when I was married and now that I'm not. Far more "interest" from married men.

My experience is different - including myself. Both parties always married.