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To ask if you'd go to the pub?

111 replies

wildlygreen · 23/10/2024 18:11

Using here for traffic as it's a quick decision I need Grin

I walk DD to a club on Wednesdays between 7-8. It's about 20 minutes each way and there are no shops or cafes or anything else open at this time of night. There is however a Wetherspoons. DH thinks I should just take my book and sit in there with a drink (doesn't have to be alcoholic) because I have about 15 minutes at home before having to go back. Pub is 2 minutes from her club. The thing is, it's quite a busy pub and I get anxiety on my own in large crowds. Would you go to the pub or go home for 15 minutes? Sorry for using AIBU, please ask for it to be moved if this isn't appropriate use of this board. I guess AIBU for potentially sitting in the pub?

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80skid · 23/10/2024 18:49

I'd definitely try the pub. If you do t have the app alteady, download it so you don't even have to go to the bar. Take headphones if you want - even if you dont listen to anything, they can put people off speaking to you if you dont want to chat.

And hopefully enjoy some you time! if you hate it, at least you tried.

Singleandproud · 23/10/2024 18:46

Any other parents you can encourage to join you?

I'm sat at a Harvesters waiting for a friend who lives nearby to join me whilst DD is at rugby training. We catch up for 45 mins and then go out separate ways

I might take headphones to block out the pub noise if you want to read though

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 23/10/2024 18:45

Spoons is the best pub to do this you can tuck yourself away in one of the nooks and order on the app so don't have to worry about losing your seat, being chatted to by strangers etc if you don't want. Soft drinks, coffees and snacks all reasonable too

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 23/10/2024 18:45

Pub. I'd take my knitting Grin

Imjustlikeyou · 23/10/2024 18:44

I’d be in the pub with an alcoholic drink death scrolling Tik tok.

greengreyblue · 23/10/2024 18:43

You can online shop- start Christmas gift buying whilst killing time. Sort out any online admin. That’s what I used to do outside clubs- didn’t have a pub to go to but sat in my car. Sometimes used to use a meditation app.

Relearningbehaviour · 23/10/2024 18:42

Pub coffee and a book

ZestFest · 23/10/2024 18:42

Absolutely go to the pub and have a coffee and surf on your phone or a read. Nobody will bat an eye

Mynewnameis · 23/10/2024 18:41

I've sat in Spoons whilst dd is in brownies... sometimes with wine :)

greengreyblue · 23/10/2024 18:41

Pub.

AChickenPooAndABiscuit · 23/10/2024 18:41

Oh see I’d vote for home and back - but I’d see it as a chance to get some more steps in on my pedometer! 😂

TeaHagTeaBag · 23/10/2024 18:40

I go for a slow plod run in similar circumstances but the pub sounds much better.

Ginmonkeyagain · 23/10/2024 18:40

Pub pub pub! I definitely would. And I'd get a pint.

Hoplolly · 23/10/2024 18:36

Pub.

Getting older and also having to travel a lot for work means I give zero fucks about sitting anywhere on my own these days. It's bliss!

Olika · 23/10/2024 18:36

Definitely pub!

TheFlis · 23/10/2024 18:35

There are always quite a few people on their own in Spoons, nobody will take any notice of you..

Screamingabdabz · 23/10/2024 18:32

A pub, no. A Whetherspoons? Yes. No dogs and plenty of people just hang out there. It’s very chilled.

Blueblell · 23/10/2024 18:32

Definitely the pub! Nothing wrong with sitting on your own in a pub. Read your phone or a book and have a drink or coffee - make the most of your child free hour! You said you were walking 😜

DoYouReally · 23/10/2024 18:32

Absolutely go to the pub, or at least try it before ruling it out.

If you don't like the idea of going on your own, you could watch to see if there's any other parents not just driving off after drop off. You could invite them to join you.

You could read a book, even wear headphones and what a programme on your phone etc.

Or you could consider time as some tome for exercise - walk or run somewhere other than directly home.

SingingSands · 23/10/2024 18:32

I'd definitely go.

I'd also order a wine and a chicken basket. 😆

KrisAkabusi · 23/10/2024 18:31

Pub. Just find a quiet corner.

Justcallmebebes · 23/10/2024 18:28

wildlygreen · 23/10/2024 18:23

@BogRollBOGOF ah but if it's a local pub for local people, is there anything for me there?

If it's wetherspoons you can have unlimited coffee for about £1.50.

Pub, it's a no brainer

FasterMichelin · 23/10/2024 18:27

Pub. But I wouldn't find it anxiety provoking. If you do, then just do whatever would make you happier. Can't you take DS and husband picks him up?

StarSlinger · 23/10/2024 18:25

Pub, book or scroll MN on your phone.

Thegreenandpurpleone · 23/10/2024 18:25

Yes I’d definitely find a quiet spot in Wetherspoons with a book, and order from the app. I wouldn’t order an alcoholic drink personally, but definitely a soft drink or a tea, and something snacky from the menu might sneak into my order!

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