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Original poster

To ask if you'd go to the pub?

111 replies

wildlygreen · 23/10/2024 18:11

Using here for traffic as it's a quick decision I need Grin

I walk DD to a club on Wednesdays between 7-8. It's about 20 minutes each way and there are no shops or cafes or anything else open at this time of night. There is however a Wetherspoons. DH thinks I should just take my book and sit in there with a drink (doesn't have to be alcoholic) because I have about 15 minutes at home before having to go back. Pub is 2 minutes from her club. The thing is, it's quite a busy pub and I get anxiety on my own in large crowds. Would you go to the pub or go home for 15 minutes? Sorry for using AIBU, please ask for it to be moved if this isn't appropriate use of this board. I guess AIBU for potentially sitting in the pub?

OP posts:
teatoast8 · 23/10/2024 21:03

I do spoons at least once a week

Ottobeak · 23/10/2024 21:00

I would quite happily sit in a Wetherspoons with a book for an hour or so. The best place in the world for people watching too!

Once you've done it once it will be easy.

Ablondiebutagoody · 23/10/2024 20:52

Public house. That's exactly what it's for. I do the same for an hour on DS's club night.

Flippinec · 23/10/2024 20:26

Not a Wetherspoons, more of an old man's pub, but I'm currently doing exactly this while my daughter is in an hour long rehearsal. It is bliss!

LadyLolaRuben · 23/10/2024 20:22

Hope you enjoyed quality time OP and want to do it again

okydokethen · 23/10/2024 19:56

Pub, book and a glass of wine personally.

TheArtfulScreamer1 · 23/10/2024 19:56

My answer before I'd even read the post was yes but more so when I read it, glad you bit the bullet and gave it a go.

catin8oots · 23/10/2024 19:53

Well done OP. Now to make it a regular thing! I quite often will go and sit in a spoons on my own while I'm shopping or waiting for someone. I don't see it as any different from sitting in a Cosya (plus they have an app so you don't even have to go to the bar!)

Clockgoesback2 · 23/10/2024 19:47

I use their time in clubs to exercise myself, once I'm out of the house anyway. But pub good too! It's my time...

FatOaf · 23/10/2024 19:41

Pub.

And I don't even like pubs.

LuckySantangelo35 · 23/10/2024 19:39

Pub and a large glass of wine OP - why on earth not?!
treat yourself!

80smonster · 23/10/2024 19:39

Defo pub.

Original poster
wildlygreen · 23/10/2024 19:31

I went/am in the pub Grin thank you all so much

OP posts:
RightOnTheEdge · 23/10/2024 19:24

Definitely pub and book.

GreyCarpet · 23/10/2024 19:18

Pub. Although I'd prefer a little country pub to a spoons.

It's what I used to do when my daughter had gymnastics.

I sometimes go to the pub after work on my own for a pint.

PyreneanAubrie · 23/10/2024 19:17

I'd go home.

Loloj · 23/10/2024 19:14

I’ve had this exact dilemma tonight - although it’s a tiny village pub and I didn’t feel comfortable with that as it is so small with locals. Had it been a weatherspoons id have definitely gone to the pub. So instead I’ve sat in my car reading mumsnet posts and thinking how lovey the pub would have been 😂

PigglyWigglyOhYeah · 23/10/2024 19:06

Any other parents you can encourage to join you?

Don't do this, because then it turns into a weekly hour of social torment where you have to make small talk or listen to someone banging on about their genius child or how many kgs they can bench press. Take a book or newspaper, have a drink. Relax

Aligirlbear · 23/10/2024 19:02

Pub with a book

Evaka · 23/10/2024 19:02

Pub. I often go and have a solo drink/coffee between things. It's pleasant.

Anotheranonymousnameismine · 23/10/2024 19:01

I’d go for pub or at least try it. If the noise bothers you and you’ve not tried them - there are lots of noise reducing ear plugs these days, eg loop.

vanillasky1999 · 23/10/2024 18:53

Pub and use the app to order.

CalicoPusscat · 23/10/2024 18:52

Sure, why not, if you don't fancy a walk.

You'd be in the warm and can relax for a while and like pp have said find out if other parents are in the same boat.

Hurdlin · 23/10/2024 18:49

Another vote for the pub.

What do the other parents do with DC at the activity?

GameOfJones · 23/10/2024 18:49

I do exactly this when I take my DD to Rainbows as it's an hour long session so not worth going back home and then going out again to collect her. I normally get a hot drink and read my book and it's lovely, a Wetherspoons would be perfect as you can be pretty anonymous in there.

Occasionally I put an audiobook on my earbuds and go for a walk for the hour instead to get some exercise. I would do either of those options instead of going home for 15 mins.

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