To think he deserved what he got?

The only thing that concerns me is that you say your DS punched the other child in the face - that is quite a violent and seemingly out of proportion response for the what the boy did and could have ended in a very serious outcome for the other child. Even a broken nose can result in life long disfigurement. I am all for people standing up for themselves but it needs to be proportional. Maybe it was more of a slap or a gentle punch, and maybe that will be the end of the matter, but I guess you will have to wait to see whether the other child was injured and whether his parents take further action eg notify the police of the assault. I would certainly tell your son that punching someone in the face can result in serious unintended harm, including death of the other person, and that it is not ok for him to do this again.

I always told my kids don't hit first, but if anyone touches you or any part of you without permission, you say stop once, after that you go sort it out yourself. Might be awful and not the correct way to deal with these precious little bullying snowflakes, but I bet he will leave your son alone in future. Sometimes a fast thump deals with a lot of issues like this, rightly or wrongly, some people don't learn until they are confronted with the consequences of their own actions.

My stance is you shouldn’t start something you can’t finish, and the other lad started something he could not finish. Lessons learnt for him!!

Good on him for dealing with a bully.

Im trying to teach my daughter not to react violently to situations like this even in retaliation to violence unless absolutely necessary and just go and find someone to help for a number of reasons:

1. Where I’m from knife crime is high especially amongst stupid kids who go round carrying knives.
2. One punch can end a life.

I hope your son is ok 😁

Yes. That sounds familiar.

Me too only last time it was a much younger kid who was hurt by the hat child and the mum was outraged that there son was being punished

Your reasoning is very bizarre. You agree that the ds did the right thing but you don't agree because your dd was punished for something similar?

No, my brain is not computing....

The fact is, many secondary schools are unsafe environments now in terms of bullying and violence (including for teachers, but that's a whole other thread).

In an ideal world where schools have functional behaviour management, your kid shouldn't have had to retaliate like that. By retaliating, though, not only will that kid not try it on again but probably other bullies won't either because they know that he can stick up for himself.

Good on your DS. I was bullied relentlessly at school until one day I saw red and punched the ring leader in the face. They all left me alone after that.

I don’t condone violence but sometimes you need to treat bullies in the only way the understand.

I agree BUT if your DS had pushed him and he'd hit his head it could be quite another matter it was lucky it was into a puddle and not a kerb.

I wish I would have done that the first time I was bullied. Instead, it went on and has stayed with me.

Good on him.

The problem is that if when your DS is full grown and behaves in this way, he could do harm, and get himself into trouble.

The boy he punched sounds like a right little nasty one, but I doubt that he now thinks "Oh, I will never again bully someone."

This is spot on well done to your Daughter for doing it! I expect the same from my girls!

Next time he may re think the shit that comes out of his mouth and either be nice or shut the hell up!
Xx

I have no idea who 'Kazza' is?

But I stand by what I said.

The school have no idea whether they boy will try it on again, or worse.

I'm not saying the OP's DS shouldn't have fought back, but the school were irresponsible in their wording.

This breaks my heart. Your poor son trying to navigate the world going about his day and minding his own business and an asshole kid does this

Yes to a big high five to your son and it does seem like your son gave him an opportunity to return the hat

I’m terrified for my own child. They are not as brave as yours and I’ve no doubt I’ve got a mountain of issues coming our way

Amazing! Well done to your son x

Good for him, will make the bully think twice.

My DD was in trouble at school for sticking up for her twin ..... some little scrote was sitting on her table at lunch and started taking the micky out of her acne, calling her horrible names, telling her she was putting him off her lunch etc.

DD heard all this from the next table and threw her full drink bottle at his head which cut it. Now I know that she shouldn't have done it and if everyone behaved like that at lunch there would be carnage .... but I was actually very proud that she stood up for her sister and there was certainly no punishment at home.

I can only hope my son would do the same. Just started secondary and has a stimming toy always.
Other children catch onto these things very quickly and know exactly what they are at.

Well done to him. I hope you don't punish him but reward him, and that other children know not to mess with him now.

Our autistic children need to have these things to help them cope.

Oh it's called being human! Chill out Kazza

school were surprisingly understanding and said he wouldn’t try it on with ds again!

This is a ridiculously irresponsible thing for the school to say, as they have no idea whether trouble will not escalate.

I hope they didn't say it in front of your DS, as it might give him a false sense of security.

You NEVER start it, but you're allowed to end it.

Do you all live in an Enid Blyton novel?!

You NEVER start it, but you're allowed to end it.