To think he deserved what he got?

Well done to your kid!

I was bullied as a kid by a couple of sisters who got away with murder as they were from a ‘rough’ family everyone was scared of.
One day, having been chased and stung by nettles and hit with sticks, I absolutely pasted them.
One was missing a clump of hair where I swung her into a ditch by her ponytail and the other was split above her eye and still has a scar from where I walloped her.

Funnily enough despite the very visible damage I inflicted, I was not punished my anyone.
That was almost 40 years ago and I have never been in a fight since. They never bothered me again and when they moved into girl gang territory in secondary school they and their new mates gave me a wide berth and still do!

It’s all very well to say violence is not the answer but sometimes it’s the only thing that will be understood. Bullies are weak and avoid people who will show them up.

I wish my daughter had done the same.....maybe she wouldn't be the fucked up mess she is now with scars on her body from self harming...
It's stayed with her too- and it changed her.

I would be worried about situations like this escalating and your DS getting injured or getting into trouble with the police. I don't think there is anything to celebrate, it sounds like a horrible incident all round.

The school sounds pretty poor if that really was their response. What are the school doing to prevent incidents in future?

Good for your son.

Yes! I remember now.

obviously I’ve spoken to ds about how there’s better ways to deal with things than resorting to violence but part of me wants to give him a high five!

He deserves a high five, the little shit and other potential little shits will more than likely leave him alone now.

Yes, it was quite the bunfight IIRC.

Do you have an autistic child ??
Usually when you stand up to bullies they cower so it was necessary....
We have no way of knowing how anyone will react to our children standing up for themselves but what's the alternative ? lie down and take it

Why would you feel proud of your son going back to school and hitting an autistic child who he has already been bullying ?

If my child had a smack for bullying an autistic child , taking his hat and throwing it into a puddle I'd be telling him it served him right

Yes i thought I'd read this before too. Then I realised the OP says in her first post that something similar happened 2 years ago, so I guess it might have been that.

How will you feel if the other boy's mum tells him not to let anyone lay him out and he goes back and knocks your son on his arse,, so that he is "left holding his face"?

Also about that -you skip over what your son actually did. Why was the other boy "left holding his face"? Do you mean that your son punched him in the face as well as knocking him over?

If so, your son may have one coming back to him. If I was the other boy's mum and he gave it back to your lad, I'd be feeling just as proud of him as you are of your boy.

On a very serious note, that hat will be a magnet for others if he is still attached to it when he is older and not in a protected environment, so maybe you want to have a think about how he is going to deal with that.

Hope the bully has learnt his lesson. Of course I don't condone violence, but in some situations it is justified (self-defence, provocation). In any case your son received a punishment for it; it wasn't waved away or ignored.

Oh, I’ve just realised this was another face punch. YABU, OP. You’re making your DC into a resentful person and eternal victim. It’s not right that her hat was taken but she/he shouldn’t have punched the child in the head. How’s she going to manage in the real world?

If he didn't stick for himself today what was the lad going to do to him next time.

He got what he deserved

But did you ever become a satanist OP?

This child has wore these hats from the beginning of school and children pick up on these things. So it's bullying and he deserved every bit of it. From an Autism mum I get it.

I was bullied at school and fifty years later I can still catch myself wishing I’d shoved her face in the dirt. I admire your son but it’s still important to stress that it’s not the default response. (🤫Well done him).

Do you live under a rock?
Have you seen the videos of children getting battered left right and Center by loads of kids ? Is it ok for this boy to torment someone and not have any repercussions?

I'm glad the boy defended himself!
And majority of people on here agree.

I'm guessing you was home schooled ? And didn't have to defend yourself at all through your teenage years!?!?!?

So am I. I think the OP had a similar thread very recently where her DC filmed some younger children who took her hat (or was filmed by them, I don’t remember). The DC then punched one of them and got a detention and OP was asking if it was fair. The general consensus was it was because the children were younger and the punch had been to the face/head.

Probably because this kind of shit happens all the time.

@MrsBunTheBakersMum well done to your son for standing up to that horrible bully! he wont touch him again! as I always said to my kids and grandkids, dont hit first, but always hit last!

Bullies only understand one thing, and that's people standing upto them. They now know he's not a pushover so good for him.

My dad taught us the same. Don't start trouble, but if someone brings trouble to you, don't be afraid to finish it.

I think the other boy has learnt a valuable lesson in life that he shouldn’t interfere with anyone else but punching someone in the face and knocking them to the ground is a massive over reaction.

I think it makes your son more vulnerable though. Some boys will see him as someone fun to wind up. The possibility of an unpredictable and potentially violent reaction will appeal to bored boys looking for some excitement on an otherwise dull school day.