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Wedding gift - how much money would you give?

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chiccachicca · 23/10/2024 12:07

Not really an AIBU, but I wasn’t sure where else to post. It’s more of a WWYD.

We are going to wedding in the next few months, all day and a dinner the night prior, DH has known the Groom since school but they aren’t massively close. We’ve not seen them him in a few years and never met his partner.

The Bride and Groom have asked for money towards a honeymoon. We haven’t been to a wedding for years and I’m not sure what is an average amount of money to gift.

How much would you gift?

OP posts:
Flumoxed · 23/10/2024 14:28

£50

TheWernethWife · 23/10/2024 14:24

Our granddaughter was married last week, we gave them £300 towards their honeymoon in Italy.

ViciousCurrentBun · 23/10/2024 14:23

I would weigh up if worth going in the first place as they aren’t close. For me it really depends on the relationship. If loads of old school mates are going I would consider it, if not I wouldn’t waste time or money.

Hadalifeonce · 23/10/2024 14:20

You give as much as your feel you can and are able to. If that is £20 then so be it. If you are comfortable giving £50, then that is OK too.

jackstini · 23/10/2024 14:17

£100
Unless it's Ireland then at least £300

Ohfuckrucksack · 23/10/2024 14:17

£50 because that would be the maximum I would spend on a gift

It's cash in lieu of a gift, not payment for attendance/costs

Pottedpalm · 23/10/2024 14:13

£200

Rickrolypoly · 23/10/2024 14:11

As a couple I would give 250.

DappledThings · 23/10/2024 14:10

Also if I know where they are going on honeymoon I have previously put cash in a card in the local currency for where they are going.

HesusCuckingFrist · 23/10/2024 14:07

£50 note is what i do. Looks nice in the card and is generous enough if you're not close.

Cosyblankets · 23/10/2024 14:06

I give what I can afford at the time.
It makes no difference to me if it's in a pub or a fancy hotel.
I would be horrified if a friend felt they couldn't come to my wedding because they couldn't afford the gift

DappledThings · 23/10/2024 14:04

£50. Would go up to £100 for someone I was much closer to. The venue, dinner night before etc are all irrelevant.

Dinosweetpea · 23/10/2024 13:45

Max £50 in my circles, generally we don't give money, instead a good bottle of champagne (or similar depending on couples tastes) Only give money if family.

TemuSpecialBuy · 23/10/2024 13:31

£150

But £200 if I knew it was going to be mega fancy

owlexpress · 23/10/2024 13:30

£100. If you're paying for your own dinner the night before, £50.

Heidi00 · 23/10/2024 13:28

I feel like with these posts it's always a bit of a regional thing. Some people it's the norm for £30 in a card, others think anything up to £500 is the norm. Also, being there the night before shouldn't make any difference to what you are gifting.

divinededacende · 23/10/2024 12:22

Depends on what's affordable but I'd generally go £100-150 cash for a good friend and £50-100 for not so close. Depends on the relationship.

PizzaPowder · 23/10/2024 12:21

I'd have said £100 but have no idea with the dinner the previous night as well. Maybe another £50?