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To be pissed of at husband

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AnnoyingH · 22/10/2024 22:45

I don't know how to describe it other than "accusations" he makes about me. It makes me so angry. Am I overreacting?

Example 1: he's going out for the day with DS and I suggested he might consider going for lunch at a particular restaurant 5 mins walk away from their venue that DS likes. So he accuses me of trying to be controlling of their day. I respond that I was just making a suggestion. He insists I'm trying to be controlling.

Example 2: I don't have a personal laptop but can use my work laptop for personal stuff. On my day off I sit at my laptop doing personal things. It just so happens that a work email pops up just as he looks at my laptop so he accuses me of spending my day off working. I explain that's not the case and he insists that I am.

Both within 24 hours. It makes me feel like he's saying I'm lying.

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Screamingabdabz · 22/10/2024 23:10

To be fair, both of those things would annoy me too.

TeenLifeMum · 22/10/2024 23:09

This one is hard to really know. I’m taking dd out on Saturday and I’ve got a plan, I don’t need dh making suggestions for where to have lunch. While it could be helpful it could be annoying depending how you usually are about suggestions. My mum makes suggestions but they’re really instructions because she’ll be put out if you do something other than her suggestion.

work wise, turn emails off! I get annoyed if I think dh is working because I worry about his mh and inability to switch off. The weekend is family time not work time. Dh was really put upon by his ceo in 2020-2021 with calls at 9pm etc and it was hard for him to stop doing that. So, it depends what you’re like and the history.

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AnnoyingH · 22/10/2024 23:09

Not a recent development, doesn't happen that often but when it does it makes me extremely angry. My mother was the same and it made me feel so helpless and just unfair, and this makes me feel the same way.

Or he will say "yes ok" but in a tone / facial expression which says "I know better, you are [insert whatever accusation is being made]" except I can't then address it because I'm the ridiculous one for reading into a "tone".

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TomatoSandwiches · 22/10/2024 23:04

He sounds nasty... like he is trying to destabilise you, make you the baddie in everything.

I don't like it.

Noseybookworm · 22/10/2024 23:02

He sounds like a bit of a twat. Is he always like that or is this a recent development?

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