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My boyfriend wants a baby. Opinions please!

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MumHereforhelp · 22/10/2024 21:07

Thanks for reading, sorry.
I'm (31) in a new relationship after a divorce to my ex, I have 2 kids age 6 and 3 from. We were together 12 years so grew up and apart, he suggested we separate when our youngest was 8 month and had a new girlfriend within weeks.. anyway, we co parent well and he sees them weekends which they enjoy.

So my relationship now (1.5year) seems to be going so perfect. He lives an hour away and so we see each other weekends mainly and always have a great time. I've never been so happy and we get along great, his family are lovely and he has a good job, nice house, he always makes me laugh, amazing with my kids. I feel extreamly lucky tbh.

So here's the problem, he has no kids. When we met he said he never found anyone he wanted to have kids with so he just assumed hes missed his time. He's only 30. He's always known I don't want more and says he's so happy he just wants to be with me..
I overheard his cousin saying, what about when she leaves you and your old and lonely because you never had a family... it kind of broke my heart.

What should I do?
Please has anyone been through similar situation and has any advice?

OP posts:
Philodendron · 22/10/2024 21:11

Leave him if he wants children - he will find someone that does. It's the kindest thing and will stop upset in the future... unless he's willing to look past having kids.

saveforthat · 22/10/2024 21:10

But that's what his cousin said, not what he said.

TomatoSandwiches · 22/10/2024 21:09

Stick to your guns and let him leave if he wants to have children.

Itsmahoneybaloney · 22/10/2024 21:09

Talk to him about it. Do you love him enough to do it? You need to live together first though - can't have a baby and live an hour apart. Also you might live together and actually hate it so definitely do that first.

Doggymummar · 22/10/2024 21:08

Let him go find someone else if you are done.