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To ask: Does being “Mr Nice Guy” really get you anywhere in life?

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QuirkyKhakiExpert · 22/10/2024 19:49

I’ve been thinking a lot about the idea of the “Nice Guy” - you know, the person who is always agreeable, goes out of their way to help others, and tries to avoid conflict. While it seems like being nice would naturally lead to positive outcomes in relationships and life, I can’t help but wonder if it actually works that way.

Do people often take advantage of kindness? Does being overly nice sometimes lead to being overlooked or taken for granted? I’ve seen discussions suggesting that this approach might not always yield the best results, and I’m curious to hear your thoughts.

Have you found that being the “Nice Guy” pays off, or does it come with more downsides?

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Hateam · 22/10/2024 19:53

Nice guys make for good husbands and fathers but pretty dull boyfriends.

They often struggle to get dates and are overlooked in favour of more exciting men but have better marriages when they eventually find someone.