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Is this harassment?

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HiImNewE · 22/10/2024 12:06

Okay so i went out on 5 dates with much older man ( im mentioning this as maybe it's just what men in his generation do ?)

I wasn't feeling it and tried to end it but he'd send flowers and get in touch other ways when i blocked him . And convince me to give him another chance

So i decided to tell him a lie that i met someone else . He became very angry and send me letter to my address being all sarcastic, cocky saying i should of waited to "break up " ( he was never my man , it was just handful of dates
As he purchased some expensive jewellery for me ( it's insulting to me , no amount of jewellery will make me change my mind i'm
not for sale

He proceeded to bash my character and call me cheater and liar . How can i cheat on a man who was never mine ?

I got few flowers from him too . I'm worried and regret letting him know my address. I don't want letters and flowers

So he called me liar and cheater , bashed my character in letters as he is blocked and send flowers .

Should i be worried ? he sounded unhinged. Or is this just what men reaching 60 do as its different generation?

I live with my 7yo daughter and don't want him showing up at my place

Even though he lives 30 mins drive away i saw him in my local Sainsbury's other day

he can shop anywhere he likes but i am worried he came to try and bump into me

Dunno what to do now , any advice ladies ? x

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HiImNewE · 22/10/2024 12:34

ladyofshertonabbas · 22/10/2024 12:24

Idon't know if the police can/will act at this stage. Maybe more effective to say to him you'll report him if he doesn't stop?

exactly my thoughts

X

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HiImNewE · 22/10/2024 12:32

Thelnebriati · 22/10/2024 12:27

Ask them not to visit him at his workplace as it would trigger him. You could also consider returning the jewellery, as it seems to be a sore point for him.

No he was bragging in letter that i should
of waited till our next date to "break up "
as he apparently splashed out on very expensive jewellery and now he is going to return it for refund .
He sounds really mental .

We were never a couple and i told him we are not compatible so should date other ppl. He told me he loves me too and won't give up

I unblocked him
and told him that nothing should be arriving at my address, i'm not for sell and he can't buy me with his jewellery

I said i told my friends and family and they advised to go police . then blocked him. And now im on edge . Hope it will give him a reality check that he can get in trouble if he carries on

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Thelnebriati · 22/10/2024 12:27

Ask them not to visit him at his workplace as it would trigger him. You could also consider returning the jewellery, as it seems to be a sore point for him.

ladyofshertonabbas · 22/10/2024 12:24

Idon't know if the police can/will act at this stage. Maybe more effective to say to him you'll report him if he doesn't stop?

HiImNewE · 22/10/2024 12:18

@prettydesertflower thank you . I'm a bit hesitant to report as i'm worried he will get even angrier and more bitter .. specially if they visit him at his workplace he will be fuming

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prettydesertflower · 22/10/2024 12:12

Please report him to the police today. Give them the letters and all communications. This is harassment. It normally escalates so please report him. There is no excuse for this behaviour- at any age.

HiImNewE · 22/10/2024 12:10

and now i'm scared leaving my house and feel anxious opening my letter box
My heart drops when delivery comes .

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