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How to make 8 yo learn to pee at break during school

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YourLastNerve · 21/10/2024 18:54

DS is 8.
I am sick of pants coming home smelly with leaked urine where he basically avoids going to the loo at break and lunch because he is too busy playing. He then leaves it too late & leaks.

I thought maturity would kick in by now & he'd find it gross and that would make him make better choices but its not and I find it completely disgusting.

No issue with school rules around this he has plenty of opportunities to go and is choosing not to. No constipation at all.

Has anyone had this issue? How did you get them past it? At the moment i have had to say he will not get the Nintendo switch he is desperate for next birthday until it stops but its just not sinking in.

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Hufflemuff · 21/10/2024 19:24

I feel uncomfortable that you're saying he can't have a birthday present because of this? I think that's a bit harsh, you're trying to shame him and that could have a profound effect on him.

Try and get him to do a wee at home before school and tell his teachers to remind him to go before lunch. That's all you can really do.

With winter coming up, things may get better as they're more likely to be stuck in for wet play, so won't be outside too distracted to go in for a wee.

Owmyelbow · 21/10/2024 19:21

My son who's the same has just been diagnosed dyspraxic (DCD). Apparently it can be a sign of poor interoception... Might be worth looking up

NoKnit · 21/10/2024 19:19

Your not alone. My 8 year old is the same. He older brother was also like this. They do grow out of it though that is the good news. It might not be too long now. I'm noticing slight improvement with mine the end might be in sight.

Oh and yes no medical issues which I'm sure is same for you. Just laziness. Drives me batty

soupfiend · 21/10/2024 19:18

Are the toilets easily accessible at times when he needs to go, are there queues, are they pleasant toilets?

If his urine is quite smelly, he isnt drinking a lot either, I wouldnt have thought a little leak here and there is going to smell that bad by pick up time?

Ask his teacher to build in toilet times for him as an adjustment for him, he obviously needs support to recognise the need.

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YourLastNerve · 21/10/2024 19:16

SallyForf
I'm confident there isnt. No other health issues and i did have him checked for UTIs. He's admitted himself he does not want to leave a game/stop playing.

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YourLastNerve · 21/10/2024 19:15

Aligirlbear I've tried this but it doesn't seem to prevent this happening - at the moment the "reward" of playing with friends seems to trump any shame or embarrassment.

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Aligirlbear · 21/10/2024 19:00

Perhaps explaining to DS that if you can smell his pants with leaked urine on them so can his friends and teachers, which must be embarrassing for him and eventually his friends will tease him about it ( and may possibly already be commenting behind his back) as it can’t be nice sitting next to him when he has leaked onto his pants or worse a wet patch appears on his trousers as well.